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Today being raised by a single parent is not uncommon. About three in ten children live in a single parent home. The most common type of single parent home is one with only a mother. However, single father homes are the fastest growing type of family situation; 60% growth in the last ten years alone.

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How do I cope?

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So, I got pregnant when I was 24 years old. I had been with my daughters father for three years. We are no longer together and I raise my daughter by myself. I have graduated college and am working in my degree field and on my masters. Everything is fine right??? Hell no.
I never wanted to be a mother. At least not so young and without being married. Everyday is a struggle. She is two and I am having a very difficult time dealing with it. It takes every ounce of my being not to OD on my Lamictal (Im bi-polar). I don't know how to deal with this anymore. I don't want to resent my daughter but because of my irresponsibility I am raising her. Every time I think about what I could be doing if I wasn't a mom I get teary eyed. I wish I could have my own place, I wish I could come and go as I please, I wish I could go out with my friends, I wish I had more money. I am loosing the best chance in my life to be selfish. I know it sounds horrible, but I just can't cope. I was not ready for this. The doctor is still working on adjusting my meds and it is making things so difficult. I really want to have positive thoughts about being a mom but it is so hard for me to do right now! I know I sound like a selfish bitch but I really feel like I can't handle this. My mom helps me, and she is even frustrated with this two stage she is in. I don't know what to do. Every time she cries I feel like Im going to have a breakdown. HELP!
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Some of what you are going through is just
normal feelings. I love my children without a shadow of a doubt. But resentment still rears her ugly head over and over.And as for the crying stages well
that is a very frustrating and wearing thing. I want to go mad when my 6 year old whines about everything. But I am all she has so I cope with it and love her and her siblings despite what I feel sometimes.
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how do i cope u dont put it in god hand and leave it there.u see we had evething someone dint have that bauful little girl think of her let her know a strong woman hurt sometimes but go on go through it pray u can do it. read my entry and comment
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Being a mom is hard single or not. I now have 3 kids under the age 5 and I just turned 26. I never got to celebrate my 21st birthday because I was pregnant with my oldest. My ex is an idiot when it comes to kids. I could go on for a while, but I try to focus on the good and let the not so good go. Its not always easy to let go but when you focus on the beautiful smile you get when you get home from work and all the little things like how sweet they are when they are sleeping the tantrums arent so bad. My 2 year ild gets mad if I laugh at her when she throws a tantrum. Its not the responce she wants so she quits. Little things like that help to get through this. I love my kids and I missed out on the party life mose 21 year olds go through, but I wouldnt trade my kids for the world. Its not always easy. Just find a way to cope. One weekend a month my parents take the kids and I get to do what I want for the weeken. I usually work saturday, but I can have time for me. Let me tell you, with 3 kids, a weekend makes a world of difference even if I have to work one day out of the weekend.
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Wow, I so know where you are coming from. Not sure how much help I can be, other then to tell you to hang in there. I also have a two year old, and somedays (like today) I just dont feel like I can do it. But please dont follow through and overdose, I tried that, and am SOOOOOOOOOOO greatful I failed. I will add you as a friend, if you have yahoo messenger, maybe we could chat sometime.
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KylasMom...I know you love your daughter...because you have her name as sign on. I have a daughter...sometimes she drives me nuts. I have been a single parent for 12 years. I think that you should embrace your childhood...you know when you were Kylas age. And have fun a few nights a week with her. I am not saying to totally forget your status completely. Just remeber when you were her age and do some of those fun things that you loved so much. this way you can become a mom and a FRIEND.

Then....you should not feel guilty about the job that you have to do...being her mother and a student...I would actually tell my daughter how tough it is...she will appreciate it when she is 15 and in the ninth grade...trust me!!!

And then...you should hug your mommy. It is wonderful to have a support person as great as yours.
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i have been a single mom since the day i found out that i was pregnant.... my son is now 3 years old, we live with my parents and my mom is my child care while i work each day... it sucks sometimes being a single mom because you see everyone else coming and going whenever they want and they don't have the responsibilities that parents have... try to have positive thoughts even though i know how hard that is at times... i hate being a mom sometimes because i don't get to come and go as i please whenever i want but then my son will come up to me and wrap his arms around my neck and tell me how much he loves me and that i'm the best mom in the world and that melts my heart and makes me realize just why i do this each day of my life and why i chose to keep hiim and raise him... it's hard and it's not something that you can just walk away from when you get tired of it... just remember that there is a reason that your daughter was brought into this world and your world.... she will one day grow up to respect you and know that you did everything you could... good luck with everything!!!!
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