I became a single mother of a disabled child 13 years ago due divorce. Afterwards, I ended up in a relationship with an abuser who victimized me and took advantage of my need for financial and medical support for my disabled child. My disbled son's father didn't pay child support dispite a court order to do so. The state just wouldn't enforce the order since I wasn't on welfare. The whole time we were together, he pressured me to have his child. He manipulated me financially and beat me into submission and eventually got his wish. It was unplanned and I was devastated! I already had one that I couldn't support on my own. When I was seven month pregant with the second child, I graduated from college and finally left him a month after graduation. I got away from the abuse finally. However, I was unable to go back to work for many months due to a post surgical staph infection from the C section and ended up on welfare. All of the sudden, the state started getting child support for my first son, to get me off welfare. The second husband and abusive sperm doner went to prison for the physical abuse and other crimes. So, with no paycheck to garnish wages from, I got no support from him. Eventually I was able to go back to work and had to pay almost 40% of my income on child care in order to work. It was so hard. I eventually got back on my feet despite having to live with strangers looking for roommates in the newspaper, and now in low income apartments. I still get no support from my second husband and he is in jail again for not paying support. I stuggle. Now that I make too much for state support, but ironically not enough for suitable housing, health insurance and medical bills for my son take up the majority of my income. Although I am no longer victimized by a man, I now feel victimized by corporate America. I work for a corporation and make them hundreds of thousands of dollars a year, but they won't pay me a living wage or even the market wage for what I do. They know that they have me over a barrel because if I leave and get a lapse in health insurance, my son's treatments will not be covered by insurance. I am so angry and frustrated. When my kids leave home, I am going to go to law school and get revenge on all of these entities that have victimized me!!!!!
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