How long has your son known your fiance? Sometimes it takes a while for children to warm up to the "new person in Mommy's life". If he had never met your fiance before the move, that could be the problem. Sudden changes like that can affect children greatly. I would talk to your son and ask him what why he doesn't like your fiance. There may be a very good reason for it. The most important thing is not to make your son feel that you are mad at him because of it. It took my Daughter a while to warm up to the man I am seeing. It's been 3 years and the one thing I learned was that children do everything at their own pace. I did know though, that if she didn't ever take to him, I wouldn't continue the relationship.

Was your son close to his father?
Maybe he's feeling like you're fiance is trying to REPLACE his father?
I don't know the situation, but that's what I would think. Kids don't replace their parents that easily.
Maybe he's feeling some anger at the whole situation - the move, the new man in his life, leaving his father behind????

Hope that helps....

Lilly
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He was never close with his father. I tried for 3 years to get his father to be in his life and gave up. I havent spoken to him in over a year and my son doesnt know him so I know he's not upset at me because I'm trying to "replace" his father. Also, I have tried talking to him and he tells me he does like him. My best friend, my sister and I raised him from before birth until this past year when we moved. I was careful not to let too many men meet my son because I didnt want them to get attached and then it didnt work so my thinking is that since he hasn't had any real father figures in his life, its hard for him to start to listen. Any takes on that?

your son is having difficulty dealing with a new man in your life and his, I had this same problem when i met my now ex wife, i had full custody of my 2 year old son, jhe is now 16, she had custody of her daughter, i dont no your full story,how old is your son? talk to your son ask lots of questions as to how he feels

My exhusband is having this problem with his own step kids. He really likes kids and has tried to do things with them. But the step kids keep rejecting him no matter what he does. He's reached the point where he's given up. I think though some councelling might of helped the situation.

While I'm am not married or engaged I have dated many times since my seperation and later divorce. My son was able to bond with the people I was dating. I tried to foster friendship. I told them(my son and who I was with at the time) I didn't care if they learned to love eachother but I would like them to be friends. I tried to keep it no pressure or little pressure and do things we all liked. There wasn't ever a real issue.

I think problems arise depending on the kids personality. Also some background on the kids. Which is why sometimes family councelling or individual councelling may work. Also there are groups out there for blended families which might help. Kids can make friends with other kids who are also in step families. Then that might help kids see they aren't alone and aren't bad for letting someone new into their life, that it doesn't replace the other, etc or they deal with feelings of fears of what if this one goes too later.

Your son is angry and confused...he may feel like your fiance is trying to replace him (your son) in your life. Be extra supportive of him and talk to him...sometimes its just a matter of miscommunication. Dont try to force him to get along with your fiance. Has your fiance tried talking to him? Maybe your son feels like he isnt respected. Just some thoughts.

Of course your son is jealous, there's a man in your life, he fears might replace him. Just love him, and talk to him. Keep him informed and ask his opinions. Try to spend quality time with him, so he knows he hasn't lost you and be reasuring so he knows he never will. And ask him (with an open mind) why he dosn't like your fiancee. Maybe something happened that upset him, It might just be a misunderstanding that can be worked out. I'd wait a while before booking any therapy though. They might just work this out on thier own!