Single Parenting Support Group
Today being raised by a single parent is not uncommon. About three in ten children live in a single parent home. The most common type of single parent home is one with only a mother. However, single father homes are the fastest growing type of family situation; 60% growth in the last ten years alone.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place at the moment.
I had my son at an early age while attending university and not able to go back because of the high price of school and child care. Even if I wanted to I wouldn't be able to get a studentloan until I pay them the money I owe, which I have been slowly doing. I've applied for student funding and once September comes there is a good chance of me getting it as long as my living arrangement doesn't change where comes the hard part.
I've been living with the father of the baby in his mothers house because the living arrangement with my parents is not one that I can handle for personal reasons. Everything has been fine until the past while the father doesn't do anything expect play computer games and go to work and whenever I complain he tells me to just leave, I no longer feel welcomed here at all, and have no where else that I am able to go. I'm been looking into finical support because I can't pay for ANYTHING myself on 420$ every two weeks, I can't even get another job its impossible but if I get finical aid I will need to wait another YEAR before I can go to school, it is worth it? I need to support my child and myself and I don't want to live off the system for the rest of my life. I feel like every time I take a step up someone pushes me down.
Anyone have any advice?
I had my son at an early age while attending university and not able to go back because of the high price of school and child care. Even if I wanted to I wouldn't be able to get a studentloan until I pay them the money I owe, which I have been slowly doing. I've applied for student funding and once September comes there is a good chance of me getting it as long as my living arrangement doesn't change where comes the hard part.
I've been living with the father of the baby in his mothers house because the living arrangement with my parents is not one that I can handle for personal reasons. Everything has been fine until the past while the father doesn't do anything expect play computer games and go to work and whenever I complain he tells me to just leave, I no longer feel welcomed here at all, and have no where else that I am able to go. I'm been looking into finical support because I can't pay for ANYTHING myself on 420$ every two weeks, I can't even get another job its impossible but if I get finical aid I will need to wait another YEAR before I can go to school, it is worth it? I need to support my child and myself and I don't want to live off the system for the rest of my life. I feel like every time I take a step up someone pushes me down.
Anyone have any advice?
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It just may take you longer to get it! Perhaps you could look into getting some skills like a CNA where you would earn a bit more in wages, be able to provide for your child and then go to school part time.
It will not be easy to work full time, be a single parent and get a degree, but you can do it!
Good luck!
The thing that causes you stress is not so much that he does or doesn't help, it is your (rightful) expectation that he should help, and your emotions when he doesn't step up. I'm sure you are feeling the lack of care from him, the fear that he will not be a good dad, the regret at the role you are put into, the jealousy that he can choose or not choose to help and you 'have' to, the anger at his immaturity and the fatigue and frustration of the struggle you are going through.
All these emotions are normal and justified, they are also, EXHAUSTING. Try to accept the fact that he is not going to change and your effort will be wasted if you try to get him to change. Then go about your business with your lovely baby. You have a plan, you are a hard worker, you are smart, you will get where you are going.
I dont know what is with these guys and their obsession with video games.
also they pay for the utilities , if you are a student !
Your living arrangement is'nt good for you or your child . There is nothing wrong with getting help from the 'system' , now abusing it is another issue....
Lot of luck : ) to you
Also, online college. I am just finishing up my BS in accounting and have been attending full time for four years while working three jobs to raise my three children on my own. This type of education while may be more expensive opens up an opportunity that sometimes isn't available for some us.
What ever you decide to do, never give up on your dream to earn your degree. Anything is possible as long as we believe in ourselves!