You need to find a support group in the town you live in. You need to be where you can make new friends and learn to have fun. That will help. Your son needs to see you living life again. And let me tell you, Your own happiness is the best revenge. I know, I have been divorced for 10 years now and I am ok and you will be too. Time and wisdom do heal all things. You will get over this and you will move on. The first step is getting out there and finding that life that you still have to live. Take care kido, there is light at the end of all this darkness.

I agree, do a google search for support groups in your area and attend, meeting others with same situation helps, kepp busy to get your mind off things, spend time going to family members homes and having them over, go to church, read the bible, pray, and put god above all else and all will fall into place

It does get better with time. You need to find little things you like to do and give yourself treats of that nature. I don't konw if you do meditation but that can also help. Finding a support group will also be great for you as it will help you make friends and those new friends will understand what your going through.

I was seperated in '95. My divorce was a little over a year ago and he got married immediately following the divorce(the month after). He's having problems in his new marriage from what I can tell. But he and I are on friendly terms. Unfortunately in my case that wasn't always how it was and part of what got him to be friendly and quit trying to use our children as a weapon was our daughter becoming terminally ill. Only after her death did he move on and stop with the anger. In my case I told him to get out in '95 as there were some abuse issues and after 7 years of marriage I had had enough.

sweetie, I know things seem really bleak, as like everyone else said a support group works wonders. Prayer does too.. I've joined a group, been going for several weeks now, and i can already tell that it's helping. When you can be around people that know your pain, have experienced it,still experiencing it. It helps so that you don't feel so alone. Case in point.. I have 3 children 1,2,4. The youngest two are preemies, the two year old has cerebral palsy. Their father left me while i was in the hospital for a girlfriend of mine, that i was so close to i asked her to be my oldest son's god-mother. There was betrayal on all sides, her father was the pastor that married me and my ex and is now his father in law. His family was down right evil to me, and he has never held the youngest, and hasn't seen them in 2 years. Ive gone through the anger, still go through it, but when they say that time heals it really does. Like i said I do have my days where I'm angry, hurt. But you've got a beautiful son that needs you, and a life to regain, so even if it's small steps take one, and let God take two, just depend on him, find a good support system, and live for you. Maybe for the first time live for you, what you want, what your desires are, your goals and aspirations. There will come a time where all things will be peaceable, but don't look so far ahead, just look to the step you're on right now and pray for God to shine a light on the next step.... be blessed sweetie, we are all here for you... I'll be praying for you, stay encouraged...

I went from being a stay at home mom to a single working mom. When I wasnt working I was at the park with my kids or doing something with my kids. It was very hard at first but after a while it got easyer. I started meeting other parents when I was out with my kids. Then, I would hire a teenager for 4 hours one Friday night a month to go out with friends or dancing. Im not a drinker but the best place to go dancing is a bar about 45 min away from my house. Just getting out and doing what I wanted made me feel better. It took time but I am better.

I agree with the others... you should find a support group (in addition to Daily Strength!)... but find something like a mommy and me too. You can even start with a My Gym or Gymboree... something to help you get out of the house and meet more moms. I'm sure there are single-parent support groups too.
And it will get better over time. I'm sure it must be very difficult for you right now. But find a few things that might bring you happiness (working out, walks, reading, dancing) and just do it! And try not to let your son see you so upset (as hard as that may be) you don't want to transfer your emotions to him.
I hope you start feeling better soon!

I went back to school-meaning found my own interests. Where I moved I am having trouble finding a single parents group. So
I found something else for me. But it benefits my children also and led to the job I start next week as a diesel tech. But I understand how you feel. My second ex left me feeling totally betrayed. But he had been my best friend also so I was
totally alone and lost. I would cry about everything-sometimes I still get this lump in my throat and miss him then here come the tears and this has been two years last month. But it is getter better
daily. I feel stronger the further away It
goes. Someone told me divorce is like a death... It is difficult. So look into counseling if you need to also-do not do it how I did/get some support somewhere.

It probably is part of getting lost in a relationship. Someone here suggested doing something you enjoyed doing when you were 6 years old. You really need to join some groups or somehow find fun for YOU. Have you tried seeing a counselor? I read a book called "The Road Less Traveled." It was good at learning to accept the things you cannot change.

Time. Time is all we have. I used to read a lot of mountaineering books and there is one line that is repeated over and over and over again in each novel i've read.

".....and i put one foot in front of the other - "

Just battle every day, every week, every month....A year ago, i was unemployed, a huge mortage that i couldnt possibly pay, low on diabetic supplies, no money in the bank, took daughter out of private school and into public school..... i cried like i've never cried before. it physically hurts. i cant believe that i felt that pain and still living. im not being sarcastic. i feel for you and i know that pain - i will never forget it and neither will you.

wake up and shower everyday. get out of the house everyday. watch movies that help you cry, movies that help you laugh and movies that inspire you to not waste away. look at your child and thank God that the future will reflect your past and how you handle yourself. you will telling this to someone else sooner than you think.

one day at a time, one step at a time.

love ya.