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child been rejected by other parent?

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I left my husband and took my 9 year old with me b/c he was systematically verbally and emotionally abusive. My daughter WANTED to leave. He badmouthed my kids so much (blended family;), she said it hurt her to hear him say such things about her brothers and sisters. We live in peace now. There was no infidelity on either of our parts.
So, he refuses to see her or show ANY interest. he said as far as he is concerned, when I left her and took her with me.... She surely feels rejected. But I try to just explain that daddy has a problem with his emotions, that he really does love you, but he's just hurt right now.
does anyone have a similar experience! how does a person just walk away from their child??
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My childrens dad stayed out of their life for a long time after I left him. He wouldn't come see them, call them, or anything.
Now he is starting to make the effort and my daughter could care less. She would rather spend the time with her friends or with me. My son on the other hand worships his father and lives for the few times a year he comes. I think these types of dads are too selfish to realize how much they hurt the child with their behavior. Wish I could give some advice but the only thing I can say is teach her to be a confident young lady who understands that someone elses behavior has nothing to do with who she is and everything to do with who they are.
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My kids dad hasnt had any contact with my 3 for 11 years,it was his choice,his now wife wasnt very nice to them and made them feel unwelcome so I asked him if he would have them on his own,he only saw them for 4 hours at the weekend but decided to turn his back instead of upsetting his wife.My 15 year old daughter wanted to get in touch a few months back and I helped her all I could,she wrote a letter with her phone number in and waited for a reply.She never got one and now hates him.I found it helped mine by having a special box that they put photos in or cinema tickets etc in,it was daddys box for when he "felt better"so they could show him what theyd been doing.They stopped doing it about 2 years after through their choice but it seemed to help.
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I don't know how someone walks away. But when I kicked (my now) ex husband out. He told me if he couldn't have all of us he didn't want any of us. He stayed away for a while and I had to deal with the children's emotions-anger, sadness, uncontrolable crying, blaming me, etc...the father finally came around and started seeing his sons-I'm sorry!
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Thank you to those of you who have shared your strategies. I am so distraught over having to basically beg him to be a father. A friend of mine who happens to be a divorcing dad told me he thought she was better off having one decent parent involved in her life, than a second one that is an ass. Here I have been bending over backwards to include her dad in stuff and he just turns the other cheek. He is not deserving of having a child. He did the SAME THING to the kids from his previous marriage- did not contact them for months after his ex wised up and moved out. This is a man that will only leave my house feet first- thats why I was the one to leave (our sanity was important to me). My head tells me its true she's better off w/o him; my heart says my little girl does not deserve to be crapped on. Thanks for your support :)
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