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Today being raised by a single parent is not uncommon. About three in ten children live in a single parent home. The most common type of single parent home is one with only a mother. However, single father homes are the fastest growing type of family situation; 60% growth in the last ten years alone.

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deleted_user 10/19/2007

I just don't understand what my husband is thinking or doing! I supported him for 2 years while he was in his country and now that he's working in the states he hasn't offered me 1 freaking cent!! I don't want to ask for it because I am waiting to see if he will ever offer. I'm sure he's sending all his money to his pregnant bi&%h back home but I not only raised our special needs son for 2 years by myself, I also fed and clothed my husband and his family!! I must have at least sent $10,000 down there in that time and went there 4 times, all with me paying! This isn't even about money, it's about respect and being grateful. I just feel so let down. Why couldn't I have known this would happen?? There should be some sort of markings/alarm on these selfish users!! I even sent him $100 bucks right when he got to Atlanta to help him get on his feet. What a piece of garbage! And, I didn't even ask for child support on our separation agreement. But that's so we don't need to keep in contact. I never want to speak to him again in my life and I don't want him speaking to my son. he had the chance to be a father but didn't take it...it's too late now!

deleted_user 10/19/2007

All I can offer is a big cyber hug. He sounds lovely. I'm sorry you have to deal with a scumbag like that. I've been there with my X too, only he has the balls to send $ then stop payment on it!! They're out of their gords.
Don't not except CS, or not ask for it because you're waiting to see if he offers. Take it from me, you'll be waiting a LONG long time. The CS is for your son, put it away for him if you don't need it. It'll come in handy one day!

jody0385 10/26/2007

I'm sorry to say, but it sounds to me like your ex isn't going to pay until he's forced to pay. I'm not sure what state you're in, but I suggest going to the local child support enforcement office and filing right now for support. In Oklahoma they deduct from any paycheck he gets and sends it directly to me, at no cost. they don't keep a dime of it. It's a free service.

deleted_user 10/28/2007

I agree with jody. I think in my state they do the same - deduct from paycheck, and if guy doesn't pay he gets a free ticket to JAIL.
So go for the child support.

xjanedoe 10/29/2007

I agree, take it to court. Here in Michigan they take it straight out of his paycheck also. I know it's not all about the money but you can put that money away for your son.
By the way your son is ABSOLUTELY ADORABLE!! Your X is missing out!

deleted_user 10/29/2007

Thanks everyone...I am in Canada, and Dante's dad is in the States illegally, so I can't really do anythng but hope he will be respectful and help me out. We'll see! I won't hold my breath.

jody0385 10/30/2007

I think you might have more options then you know. if you have his finding address file that with the courts for support. If he's here and isn't suppose to be it will be his ticket back home with trouble to follow. If you can't make it alone (and believe me we all know it's expensive raising a child) then you owe it to your son to get him to pay his support. I'm not real familiar with the rules and laws of Canada, but I'm sure if you went to the local child support office or the equivelant there they will help you as best as they can. Seek all kinds of help through the government there and they will be more likely to help find him too. Good luck. If you need money saving ideas post it here, I'm sure me and others have tons of helpful hints.

deleted_user 10/31/2007

Thanks everyone...I'm ok moneywise, I just thought that he would offer, you know? It's really discouraging to realize that I picked a totall jekoff to have a child with and get married to! Live and learn, I guess!

deleted_user 11/01/2007

ive come to the conclusion that they are all scum in their own way. sorry if i have offended any men right now just a bit down on you all at the moment. dont mean to tar you all with the same brush.

deleted_user 11/03/2007

say why you dont want toa sk for it?
If you dont you wont get it, simple.
You can go to court of you want to as well.
you ask becasue it is for your child. You expect this monthy for your child. It does not matter if you earn 10 grand a month, thats not the point. He is the father and must be responsible to his child. You ask or go to court because of the child, not you.

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