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As far as Custody, what is fair to the man?

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My stbx and I have been sharing custody and have been very fair, I feel. He gets them every other weekend from Fri. at 6pm until Sun. at 6pm. and then once per week for an overnight. Does this sound reasonable to you or what is the norm? My kids do miss me when with their dad. He is wanting more time with them now that the divorce is closer and I'm not sure if I can accommodate him as I am working now 40 hours and feel I have very little time as it is with them.

What does everyone think about this?

Thanks.
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The normal in most states is the non-custodial parent grt's them the first, third and fifth weekend. Alternating holidays and a month in summer.
I think the arangment you have is more than fair.
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I am not sure how old your children are but I think your arrangment sounds typical for parents that are both good. One thing you could do that might satisfy him is if you let him keep the kids overnight on his weekends on Sunday. This would give him 2 more days out of the average month. And maybe see if he might be open to a visit one night a week vs an overnight. I don't know if an overnight in the middle of the week can be disruptive to some kids? He may not go for that because he would be losing more then gaining. Just a few options/things to think about. My ex and I share custody and my son goes back and forth quite a bit which probably should be changed now that he is starting school. Its just hard to tell someone that the kids should be with one person more then the other. That's a hard pill to swallow for the person missing out on time. Of course if one parent isn't fit, thats another story.
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