The end of last year (after 8 years of hell and 2 years of divorce/custody battles) I'm finally free of a very negative influence in the life of my son and daughter. It's been 7 months now of freedom, but after the years of verbal and physical abuse, i'm stuck feeling insecure about everything, and depressed; Yet required to maintain a smile and positive attitude about everything for my kids. I have a girlfriend, but while incredible and not crazy, she doesn't fit the emotional needs I have to recover from my history. I'm constantly feeling alone and out of control because i'm left juggling being both mom and dad for my kids, on top of having to handle my own life and health.
Over the last several months, communication and time together has slowly dwindled away in my new relationship. The use of "just so busy" is routinely tossed in and more time is taken away. First it was constant talk that was unrealistic (honemoon phase), then barely talking during the day, coming over tuesday night, facetime or phone at night and entire weekends together; Now it's barely any during the day, and not days that her son is with her unless she texts me first, no facetime or phone, and only time together on saturdays to be together when her son is with her due to her sons anger/frustration issues that make him lash out at my son.
I feel I'm the only one putting in any effort. I always make time and go out of my way. She routinely says she's busy but strings me along on tuesdays and on weekends. I am happy when we're together, but tired and lonely when i'm home. I have no social life, because I have a sidekick 100% of the time, other than for my work and his school. I'm overwhelmed and exhausted during the week and just don't want to do anything. The circumstance of being a single father is infrequent, so there is zero support from others, and what support I get from family is 1500 miles away, and generally through text messages. I'm tired of everything.
I've been at my job for years. About over a year ago we obtained a new manager. She is awful. She was promoted within and never had managerial experience. She keeps adding to our plates saying it's our job. A few of us who have been doing the job longer all agree it's not. She uses the grey area alot. We all know she is full of it because she doesn't understand it. I'm currently...
I am a single father: I am not in my daughter's life because my ex and I have stopped speaking to each other. My ex has used Family Court to hurt me and prevent me from being in my daughter's life. Since I am a single dad, what can I do to help myself? I have no desire to get get together with my ex. I also need advice in coping with the dating scene as a Single Father. Single fathers out there,...