Single Dads Support Group
This community is dedicated to fathers who are going through the parenting process alone or without the support of a spouse. Single parenthood is often opted for by the parent (as in divorce, adoption, artificial insemination, surrogate motherhood, or extramarital pregnancy), or an unforeseeable occurrence (as in the death of one parent or abandonment by one parent).
My wife and I are in the beginning of a divorce and are trying to figure out how we deal with the custody of my 8 year old son. My wife and her attorney tried to pull a fast one and got a temporary restraining order against me for abuse, a 8 pack of toilet paper fell down the stairs and hit her in the leg. Luckily the court saw it for what it was and threw out the order.
My wife and her attorney wants us to have an arrangement where my son is with me for a week then the following week with my wife. My attorney is a very experienced divorce attorney and was a child of divorce and keeps saying that all the back and forth will not good for a child.
One important piece of the puzzle is that my wife was diagnosed as bipolar about 6 years ago, has had 4 major episodes, and is at what seems to be the end of the latest episode and still refuses to take meds.
I'm proposed an arrangement where I have primary custody of my son during the school year with very generous visitation for my wife and then reverse the arrangements during the summer. In addition allowing my ex to have primary custody during most holidays. This is all on the condition she stays on her meds.
I want to find a custody arrangement that primarily will benefit my son and I'm wondering about other people's experience with various custody arrangements.
Thanks
My wife and her attorney wants us to have an arrangement where my son is with me for a week then the following week with my wife. My attorney is a very experienced divorce attorney and was a child of divorce and keeps saying that all the back and forth will not good for a child.
One important piece of the puzzle is that my wife was diagnosed as bipolar about 6 years ago, has had 4 major episodes, and is at what seems to be the end of the latest episode and still refuses to take meds.
I'm proposed an arrangement where I have primary custody of my son during the school year with very generous visitation for my wife and then reverse the arrangements during the summer. In addition allowing my ex to have primary custody during most holidays. This is all on the condition she stays on her meds.
I want to find a custody arrangement that primarily will benefit my son and I'm wondering about other people's experience with various custody arrangements.
Thanks
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I personally feel going a week at a time without your son seeing you is really tough for all involved -- although others may disagree. I think the most important thing is consistancy and that the child know where he or she is going to be and when. And in that since, perhaps that arrangement isn't so bad.
I've read a lot from people saying a kid should primarily be with one parent, but I can't imagine any parent who is really actively involved in their kid's life being OK with that. Or any kid who has a mom or dad that is actively involved being OK with that.
I personally hate the term "visitation." Really hate it. Visitation is something you get in prison. I wish courts would strike it from the language. Parents parent their children, they don't visit them.
Anyway, I'm off track. Do whatever gives your son a stable and consistant environment that doesn't rob him of one of his parents he loves so much.
Her life is falling apart and my daughter is getting old enough where she asks questions "why is momma like this?" etc.
Im so confused and depressed. I recently took STD to settle this issue because I love my daughter more than life itself and my father abandonned me when I was 14.
Any advice.
Ryan