Single Dads Support Group
This community is dedicated to fathers who are going through the parenting process alone or without the support of a spouse. Single parenthood is often opted for by the parent (as in divorce, adoption, artificial insemination, surrogate motherhood, or extramarital pregnancy), or an unforeseeable occurrence (as in the death of one parent or abandonment by one parent).
OK, my oldest, who's 11, is almost in my opinion afraid to ask his mother a single thing, ever. also, he seems to not want to upset the apple cart for her. he comes to me for everything, even on the days she has them. I tell him he has to talk to his mother about it, but he still comes to me.
how do you instill in the child that its ok to ask either parent.?
also, the thing about school activities, tests, daily things. he comes to me for every and all and I love it, but sucks that his mother can't be moer involved in his life. she's still too damned busy playing house with her boytoy and dress up dolly with my 6yr. girl when we do see her. forget helping my son, with his algebra, or science, or even vocab. I am the only one doing this and its frustrating.
how do you instill in the child that its ok to ask either parent.?
also, the thing about school activities, tests, daily things. he comes to me for every and all and I love it, but sucks that his mother can't be moer involved in his life. she's still too damned busy playing house with her boytoy and dress up dolly with my 6yr. girl when we do see her. forget helping my son, with his algebra, or science, or even vocab. I am the only one doing this and its frustrating.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I think all you can do is make sure that you continue to be there for him. I know what you're saying because a kid's relationship with his mom will impact him, but all you can do is be a good role model yourself and perhaps build a new healthy family your son can become a part of.