Single Dads Support Group
This community is dedicated to fathers who are going through the parenting process alone or without the support of a spouse. Single parenthood is often opted for by the parent (as in divorce, adoption, artificial insemination, surrogate motherhood, or extramarital pregnancy), or an unforeseeable occurrence (as in the death of one parent or abandonment by one parent).
Dear all,
I just wanted to say that I admire all of you single dads. For the past year, I have been supporting my partner through a custody battle over his little girl. This has all been settled in court but, my god, his ex will not let it lie.
I really had no idea how biased the law is to the mother and he's having such a terrible time. He was originally granted residency by CAFCASS but his ex complained about the CAFCASS officer. The second officer basically said my partner couldn't have his child because he worked, so appointed residnecy to his ex (so yes, your UK taxes are paying for her house and for her to watch tv all day - sorry guys!!)
Even though that is supposed to be finished she is still being a b***h and trying to stop my partner seeing his little girl.
I'm sure plenty of you have experienced similar things. Not a week goes by when we haven't had to deal with her ridiculous behaviour (she has done so much that if I told you it all you wouldn't believe me). She's tried to stop contact by saying that my partner has beaten me up in front of his daughter; saying that I told their daughter that I was her new mummuy (which is just sick); tried to have him arrested than tell their daughter that her daddy is going to die in prison...it just never stops and we can't see it stopping until his little girl is old enough to say who she wants to live with. She even said in court that she was a victim of domestic abuse, but a finding of fact got ruled out by 7 different judges (but she still hasn't let that lie - crazy). His ex cannot stand the fact that their daughter wants to live with her dad.
His little girl is already saying she wants to live with us and that her mummy doesn't like her and that she hits her etc. It's breaking my partner's heart and all we can do is give her as much love and security as we can when she is with us.
I'll be honest, it's incredibly hard for me (and more so for him) and it's so hard to see a little innocent child get used so much. Do you think she'll get through it ok? We're worried that as she gets older it'll really mess her up?
I can't believe that the people who have the authority to do something just can't see it. It really has shocked me to how family law works.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that not all women/mothers/ex's a total b*****s, some of us are nice. For those who are having a terrible time getting contact and for no good reason - I salute you, and for those dads that have residency - that's great to hear.
Seriously, it's so hard for father's to get heard. Keep fighting dads!!!
I just wanted to say that I admire all of you single dads. For the past year, I have been supporting my partner through a custody battle over his little girl. This has all been settled in court but, my god, his ex will not let it lie.
I really had no idea how biased the law is to the mother and he's having such a terrible time. He was originally granted residency by CAFCASS but his ex complained about the CAFCASS officer. The second officer basically said my partner couldn't have his child because he worked, so appointed residnecy to his ex (so yes, your UK taxes are paying for her house and for her to watch tv all day - sorry guys!!)
Even though that is supposed to be finished she is still being a b***h and trying to stop my partner seeing his little girl.
I'm sure plenty of you have experienced similar things. Not a week goes by when we haven't had to deal with her ridiculous behaviour (she has done so much that if I told you it all you wouldn't believe me). She's tried to stop contact by saying that my partner has beaten me up in front of his daughter; saying that I told their daughter that I was her new mummuy (which is just sick); tried to have him arrested than tell their daughter that her daddy is going to die in prison...it just never stops and we can't see it stopping until his little girl is old enough to say who she wants to live with. She even said in court that she was a victim of domestic abuse, but a finding of fact got ruled out by 7 different judges (but she still hasn't let that lie - crazy). His ex cannot stand the fact that their daughter wants to live with her dad.
His little girl is already saying she wants to live with us and that her mummy doesn't like her and that she hits her etc. It's breaking my partner's heart and all we can do is give her as much love and security as we can when she is with us.
I'll be honest, it's incredibly hard for me (and more so for him) and it's so hard to see a little innocent child get used so much. Do you think she'll get through it ok? We're worried that as she gets older it'll really mess her up?
I can't believe that the people who have the authority to do something just can't see it. It really has shocked me to how family law works.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that not all women/mothers/ex's a total b*****s, some of us are nice. For those who are having a terrible time getting contact and for no good reason - I salute you, and for those dads that have residency - that's great to hear.
Seriously, it's so hard for father's to get heard. Keep fighting dads!!!
deleted_user
thanks for acknowledging the dads that have their kids a priority. best to your partner in his situation.
deleted_user
There is a great bias in this country against fathers, and white men in general. I dont see it changing in my life time.
Join the Conversation
-
theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
-
I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
