"anti-social" is a BIG one for me...
"stuck-up"...
"too good for everyone else"...

i don't really see where these people get these. just because we're quiet doesn't mean we're stuck up or act/feel like we're better than everyone else...

hurts my feelings...and confirms my belief that they really don't know me...

i get afraid people think of me as being unfriendly as i am shy and qiuet,but then thinking people dont like me makes me shyer!

One person said that when they first met me they thought i was snobby and standoffish, but realises there is a genuine shyness. that really hurt because im actually very down to earth and friendly, just in a quiet way!

My situation is I am in a professional, with a well paid job. I have heard people think I am "too good for them," or 'stuck up'.

Actually I am not any of those. Just a shy person who has difficulty talking with people I am not familiar with. I still put my pants on one leg at a time, scrub the toilet, do the dishes, and do laundry...not much different than anyone else who is outgoing!

i honestly dont like shy.
because most of the time,
when someone points out that im "being shy",
im not--i just dont want to talk to them.
like, i am shy, i dont deny that,
but the people who point it out are usually the ones i wouldnt want to talk to even if i wasnt.

Anti-Social
Oh he's just quiet

I've been forced into big social situations that I did not feel comfortable in yet people who know me well expects me to just open up to everyone.

It annoys me when people say, "You're really quiet aren't you?" or "You're so quiet!"

What the hell do you want me to say in response to that?

It's like going up to someone and saying "You have brown hair". And??? Did you have anything further to add or are you just stating the obvious!?

Honestly #6 you said it better than I could

When the word shy was used to describe me it was a light switch to off. It was like "They expect me not to talk than why should I..."
But I had to keep going, keep trying, and not let words mold me or control me.

"anti-social". I was actually wondering if maybe I AM anti-social. I decided I am to a certain extent, I mean its hard to enjoy socializing when its so difficult and uncomfortable and awkward... but it is certainly not a matter of not liking people or not wanting to socialize. I do enjoy spending time with people I am comfortable with.
I know some people think that I'm rude or unfriendly and I hate that... I hate when people tell me I'm quiet! I really try not to be.

i hate it whenever people would say that i should stop being shy or that i should eliminate this trait because i won't go anywhere if i don't.

i hate it when they say it, it lowers my self esteem and what gives them the right to say that to me? they haven't experienced it. they make it sound so easy when its not.

I think Tea560 sumed it up for me!! I hate when people think pointing it out is going to bring up a conversation...

I am also always worried people think I'm stuck up or snobby, thats the last impression I want to make with people. I am really nice and friendly but it takes me a while to get close to people.

Hi everyone,

The statement I have always disliked is " It is always the quite ones..."

This statement is usally in referance to outragous or harmful behaviors.

I hate it when anyone calls me shy or quiet or antisocial or asks me why I'm that way. It's very insulting to me, but a lot of my non-shy friends don't understand why. I feel like shyness is my worst quality and I don't think anyone likes to have their worst quality pointed out or made into a big deal especially in front of other people. I also blush a lot and I hate it when people point out that I'm blushing. It's really humiliating and it makes me blush even more.

I was in 1st grade the first time someone called me "stuck up" It hurt then, and it hurts now to think about. I have been misunderstood most of my life. I am really glad to have found this site.

The biggest one for me as a child was..."Karen did you speak" in a shocked tone...Or cos I had a quiet voice..."Did you say something?"...When what? or pardon would have done...

I used to get very annoyed with teachers who described my daughter as withdrawn...I used to point out that my daughter is not depressed or being abused...

Recently someone accused me of being a "Timid lill mouse" My friend defended me by saying..."Well you don't know Karen"...

Some times I would like to be as rude as these people are...but I am not a rude ignorant person...so I choose to ignore them...