Sherielyn,

I keep my negative judgements about others to myself, so I would be unlikely to make the type of comments the woman at Curves made to you. As with all messages, consider the messenger - maybe insecurity she has about herself or being around hostile people herself contributed to her compulsion to speak negatively. Remember, you are always you and not the snap judgements other people make about you - just listen to people talk generally and you'll of course realize that people are wrong most of the time about just about everything - and yet they keep on talking! Maybe the next time you encounter her, she will be in a different mood, but even if not, I encourage you to keep going to Curves and doing other things, and you will eventually meet the kind of people you want to have in your circle of friends! Yes, some verbal messages hurt, but other messages can heal, motivate, encourage, and brighten the moment! Turn on your "perception filter" and let the dark clouds drift past while the sunshine warms you - and feel free to vent on this website when you need to!

Beaumont

Some people! She might have said that to make herself feel better, and yes, there are such people out there who go out of their way to make negative comments for their own self-esteem. She'll get what comes around. The reason you're at Curves is to help yourself, you're not supposed to go in there all perfect.

It doesn't matter if you're shy or not, I think anyone might have reacted the way you did. For someone you've only talked to a few times, she shouldn't have made comments about your body.

You're going there for YOU, not her, have fun with it!

i've never been there before but isn't curves supposed to be a place where people can improve themselves and support each other? it doesn't seem right that someone there would make fun of you. maybe (i hope) it was one of those times when you say something you didn't mean, and she's regreting it?

Your response to her was great. She may be unhappy and extremely critical of herself, and that got projected over to you. I am reminded that people can misunderstand shyness for being conceited (not applying this to you here, she just probably doesn't consider how you might feel). Anyway it is good you vent here. You might consider saying something nice to her if given opportunity, it might feel good, though many might find that sort of response unwarranted. I think it would be the best way to change the situation and put your best foot forward, just a thought (easier said than done maybe).

Sounds like she is insecure with herself. I know several people who put down or make fun of others to make themselves feel better about their pathetic lives.