
Shyness Support Group
Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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I am trying so hard to be sociable. Interested in others etc. Well, on Friday, I met someone at Curves who I felt really put me down. I have only talked to her a few times before this.
The convervasation went something like this: "Have you looked at yourself lately? You are holding your head up way too high. Your shoulder is higher than the other. You are standing crooked. Then she me made a 'gimpy" and 'duhh' face imitating what she thought I looked like. I wanted to crawl home. I just said "Give me a break!"
She may have thought she was just being funny. Maybe I don't have the best posture. I don't think she realizes just how shy and insecure I am. I would never say that to anyone!! I always think of peoples feelings.
Just wanted to vent! Would you ever say that to anyone?
The convervasation went something like this: "Have you looked at yourself lately? You are holding your head up way too high. Your shoulder is higher than the other. You are standing crooked. Then she me made a 'gimpy" and 'duhh' face imitating what she thought I looked like. I wanted to crawl home. I just said "Give me a break!"
She may have thought she was just being funny. Maybe I don't have the best posture. I don't think she realizes just how shy and insecure I am. I would never say that to anyone!! I always think of peoples feelings.
Just wanted to vent! Would you ever say that to anyone?
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I keep my negative judgements about others to myself, so I would be unlikely to make the type of comments the woman at Curves made to you. As with all messages, consider the messenger - maybe insecurity she has about herself or being around hostile people herself contributed to her compulsion to speak negatively. Remember, you are always you and not the snap judgements other people make about you - just listen to people talk generally and you'll of course realize that people are wrong most of the time about just about everything - and yet they keep on talking! Maybe the next time you encounter her, she will be in a different mood, but even if not, I encourage you to keep going to Curves and doing other things, and you will eventually meet the kind of people you want to have in your circle of friends! Yes, some verbal messages hurt, but other messages can heal, motivate, encourage, and brighten the moment! Turn on your "perception filter" and let the dark clouds drift past while the sunshine warms you - and feel free to vent on this website when you need to!
Beaumont
It doesn't matter if you're shy or not, I think anyone might have reacted the way you did. For someone you've only talked to a few times, she shouldn't have made comments about your body.
You're going there for YOU, not her, have fun with it!