II don't have any advice but I do know how you feel. I have found that I attract people who are outgoing and talk a lot. Most of the time I am fine with it. Sometimes, when I am feeling chatty, they won't listen cause they are use to me being quiet and letting them run the conversation. My friends think I don't have any problems or stresses because I don't complain. This is sooo not true, I just don't get a chance to express myself. Good luck!!

sorry, I forgot to ask. what is Turners Syndrome?

Its very strange how shy people tend to attract outgoing people. Turner syndrome is a gene abnormality that causes girls to be short is stature. It has other side effect's like a lack of confidence ect.

This is odd because I'm really shy, but I guess mainly with people I don't know and I feel pretty comfortable with good friends. I'm always active and creative and like to do fun things with my friends, but recently I found out that my friend's girlfriend, who never really said anything, finally joined in on something we were doing and she was really happy because she always felt she had nothing to contribute--from my point of view, I was happy that she had finally came out and joined in, I was always too shy to suggest or even request her input, and she was so shy I was afraid she didn't like me. But I always accepted her and we have a much better relationship now.

Maybe your friends are like how I am (though not many are). I'm sure they appreciate your company no matter what you contribute. Sometimes we, as people, just like being around the right souls; like much-needed frequencies.

yeh, im the same. my best friend is the 'loud kid' on campus, pretty much the loudest guy u could ever know lol. and i do get really intimidated around him and his friends, but i thnk it helps to have friends like that in the long run. they tend to tell u thngs as they r, rather than sugar coating it. plus my mate has introduced me to some great people

I have a similar problem. I generally am quiet during get togethers. But I do find that when I am with those that I feel comfortable around, I tend to open up a bit.

As for self confidence, well that is something you have to build yourself. Your stature, or looks should not be the building blocks for this. When I look in the mirror I sometimes think that I am not very good looking, or I feel like a fool. These are the times where I should be slapping myself silly.

Outgoing people used to make me nervous. Now I just see them as who they are. Outgoing. If they think there is something wrong with me, then that is their problem. I know I am an introvert, and that I am very careful with whom I talk to and whom I choose to be friends with. I can count the number of true friends I have on two fingers. The rest are just aquantances that I see often.

Hi Ellie,you must be a gentle natured person who is so considerate to let others have their way that people forget to have the same consideration for you. Over Thanksgiving, everyone where I was was really nice but I never really opened up till after someone invited me to play a game with them. Then it was the two of us. By the end of the game I noticed I opened up a lot more and felt very comfortable with my surrounding. I hope this was insightful.
Caeli

Thank's, that does help. Its alway's nice to known there are people in the same situation!

i love it when someone's topic seems to fit me so well.

i don't have many friends but i've had that experience many times with a few friends and especially with my wife.

if i go to a wedding with her she gets mad at me because she wants to talk/laugh/dance with everyone and i'm extremely uncomfortable with all of that. i wonder what's wrong with me that i can't be more like her and i feel like i'm embarrassing her in front of her friends.

i'm working on being comfortable just hanging out and being quiet, and reminding myself it's okay that i don't feel like talking. but that scenario is still one of my least favorite. i feel that way if i go to a work event of my wife's as well.

I tend to have outgoing friends that protect me... lol. They know that I am shy and do all the talking like when we go to stores and need help with finding something...they will ask for me, or even order a coffee for me. I tend to hang around 1 friend at a time though...even though they may be both my friends I just do better with 1 on 1.

I have outgoing friends too. I also have a very outgoing older brother that when we were younger I hung aroundd a lot. He knew I was not conifident and shy so he would invovle me in his groups. It seems once I get started talking I can't stop. LOL