hey if he had a problem with you that was his fault because he didn't take the time to get to know you. i kinda went through a situation like this but don't let it get you down. we have to believe there are other guys out there that will be understanding of what we're going through. but for now just worry about yourself

I have trouble making conversations with people at times. It is easier if they start it and still sometimes I don't know what to say. It bothers me. I wish i could help you. All I can say is that I know how that is. You just have to keep trying like I am.
As for your ex, its his loss. Hope this helps.

My advice is do homework. By that I mean... before you are going to be in a social situation research topics of interests. Scan some news/articles/jokes etc. and when you find s/t interesting read it just to get enough information to be able to talk about it (and form some opinion about it). Then talk about it and see where it goes. You might find a few articles so that you have can integrate ideas. Speaking is an art and some people have the gift of gab. I have the gift of quietness, so I have to prepare. It takes effort, but you might enjoy it. Google is my homepage and I have it setup with news headlines/psychological research headlines etc. so I can scan and click on what's interesting.

I suspect a problem might be that you have a creative desire to create a conversation about something that you made-up because you have a misconception that other people are creating special, unique, outstanding topics. But...One day just pay attention to the things people talk about and you might notice that people usually talk about things they've read, seen, heard, etc.

You are probably setting an unrealistic standard for yourself.

So develop some interests. Do your homework. Prepare.

Or decide prep. is not worth it, and accept the consequences.

Whatever you decide... like yourself for it. I mean if you're gonna decide s/t, then your decision should be s/t that you can live with.

To prepare or not to prepare!

Good luck;)

i have problems with small talk too. nothing wrong with being introverted. stay positive and focus on things that interest you and go from there.

I have learned something so important about being shy that it changed my life and the life of my 2 shy kids. After my kids pediatirican recommended a book called Don't Call Me Shy by Laurie Adelman I now understand that socially uncomfortable people must first learn how to change how they see themselves before we can change how we behave. I followed the suggestions in this book and things are so much better. We all feel better about ourselves and way more confident. Our self esteem is much better and we are more comfortable with other people. I wish you all the best of luck. Take steps to help yourself feel better and do it for yourself-you are so worth it!

i have a hard time making conversation with ppl 2. confidence for me is working against me, always did when i was growing up. i feel very confident with my fiance, thats the only time i feel confident and its a great feeling.

maybe u should look into toastmasters.org. i have been thinking about joining it and attending meetings for interpersonal communication.

with ur ex, his loss. if he only knew what u were goin through, he should of been helping u not bein an ass. if someone cant completely understand that u r struggling with something but u r trying, then they are not worth ur time