Shyness Support Group
Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.
Has anyone here ever felt that they just bother people? I had to call for an appointment today for physical therapy and I felt like I was bothering the receptionist. Then I had to call my doctor's office so they could fax a document over to the physical therapist, and the lady was pushing me for the fax number which I had in the other room, so I ran to get it, and she asked again for it. Of course I blame myself, I should have had the fax number in my hand.
Let me know what you think: I'm going to physical therapy for free because I know the people. Now I feel guilty for going. They said they just want me to get better and they're not going to charge me because I work there. It's so nice of them, I just feel so guilty for not paying. If I had to pay, it would be $40 per visit!
So now every time I go there, and it seems really busy and they're running around in circles, I feel like my space should be open to someone else who pays, and that I'm "in the way."
Sometimes I feel like I should just stay out of the way.
Let me know what you think: I'm going to physical therapy for free because I know the people. Now I feel guilty for going. They said they just want me to get better and they're not going to charge me because I work there. It's so nice of them, I just feel so guilty for not paying. If I had to pay, it would be $40 per visit!
So now every time I go there, and it seems really busy and they're running around in circles, I feel like my space should be open to someone else who pays, and that I'm "in the way."
Sometimes I feel like I should just stay out of the way.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I do hate many things about myself, but the obnoxious loud mouth makes me feel a little better about my quiet ways.
Here's another short story: The physical therapy department at my job is helping me out a lot, so I brought them a homemade crumb cake. I felt like I was bothering them when I walked in there, but people thanked me for it and I left there because I figured they were really busy. I came home from work the next day to hear a really nice message on my answering machine from my physical therapist thanking me for the cake and how great it was, wishing me a great Thanksgiving etc. So that was my reassurance that they're satisfied with me.
Can you believe I thought I was bothering them when I brought the cake in?!!! Crazy!
They wouldn't have offered to do it for free if they didn't want to. Don't forget you give back them in alot ways that you don't even realize. You work there. You give back in other ways. What a thoughtful gesture in bringing a crumb cake. You sound like a very nice, considerate person.
It's still there a lot, I continue to back away, but I do realize that I have a right to be present :)
You give the impression you don't have a right to be here but you do, accept and embrace this thought. You are here because you have something to give to others that others need, you are just unaware of what that is right at the moment. When you go to PT show your gratitude and know in your heart that one day, you will give to someone down the road in need as a payback for what you received when you were in need. Guilt is often a false judgement upon oneself, when such is the case remind yourself to look at the truth. Have a blessed day!
caeli
If they've offered to see you, they obviously meant it (they know how busy they are), they obviously care so u have every right to be there. But yeah that's true at least we're not obnoxious :)
Sometimes the person who I'm "bothering" is just in a bitchy mood though so then I'm just like, "Well f___ you then."
I'm sure the play would be busy whether you're there or not, and you should just be grateful that they're not making you pay. It's a favor, accept it and don't feel guilty. I mean, when you do someone a favor, you're doing it because you want to and you wouldnt want them to feel guilty because.. they haven't done anything wrong you know?
I really identified with what was being said. There's so much going on in it about "bothering" and "blaming." This person (hi, I'm Wendy) blames themself and is wondering whether other people are bothered by them- that's a lot of focus really being put on you, by you. It seems strange that being shy could be so self-absorbed. It freaks me out a bit because on the surface it seems like we are focusing on the other guy. It's like, "Wait, I'm worried about what the other person's feeling? How did that happen!"
And when I read this post, I read a lot of guilt. There's guit at not having the fax number handy, there's guilt for getting a benefit that others must pay $40 for, and I think the guilt even extends to feeling like you're in the way. Somebody else who pays should have the privilege.
So I guess it might be a good idea to decide whether you think this guilt you're putting on yourself it truly warranted.
I've come around since the fax number and physical therapy incidents. I realize that the woman who asked for the fax number probably doesn't remember the incident at all, and if the P.T. unit was starved for money they would have asked me to pay.