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Ok, I have been single for over a year now, and feel that I am ready to start putting myself out there to date. Well, I put up a profile at a couple online dating sites(I know, cheesy).. well, I had a few responses to one of them, granted I dont have a pic up at that one, These guys send me an interest saying they want to get to know me.. then I respond, pouring myself(within reason of course) out in an email, and then never hear from any of them again. What am I doing wrong here?

When I say pour myself out.. I am meaning that I tell them that I am a single mother, and things I like to do in my spare time... that sort of thing.
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Oi, men! :) I have the same story! I've realized, though, that I'm not doing anything wrong. It sounds like you're doing everything right. Reveal yourself and be truly interested in the other person. Imagine things from their perspective and just say what you feel. Who knows why they drift away. You have to believe in yourself.
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I would say, try not to reveal too much all at once. Keep em wanting to come back for more. Put a picture on your profile and say you are a single mum on profile too. Then hopefully you will only get guys message you that are genuinly interested x
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I met my husband on an online dating service. It was called www.okcupid.com.

If you think they're getting turned off by something you're saying in the e-mails, try putting it all on your profile page. This way everything is out there, and you don't have to feel let down if you don't get an e-mail back since they know the basics of you.
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normally i wouldn't think that you're saying too much at once in those emails but since they're not responding, maybe don't say so much at once? can they see from your profile that you're a single mother? maybe they're not interested in fatherhood yet
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Yes, one of the first things I have in my profile is that I am a single mother.. and that my kids are my world. A few of the men who sent me interests were fathers themselves.. So I dont know, maybe they were hoping for a picture right off? Or looking for more of a hook up than a relationship?
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men are stupid
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