I have struggled with compulsive buying before but this week everything came to a head. I have $10,000 in credit card debt that I hid from my spouse. (I had been having part of my income deposited into another bank account and using that amount to pay the debt and spend some more). When we were at the bank this week, processing our mortgage refinance, my debt came out (right while we were in the bank). Initially I lied about it - saying I was helping my sister pay off her debt - but eventually I owned up to it. To all of it.
My husband is (understandably and rightfully) angry, hurt, confused...and a million other things I can't image. I am not sure how this is going to all play out. He did say the "d" word (divorce) but not as an option he wants to pursue right now, but in passing.
In our conversation, he asked me if I had an addiction. It took me aback for a minute because "addiction" had never ever crossed my mind but after doing research I think this is EXACTLY what I have. I am trying to be pro-active and have made an appointment with a councelor (for Monday).
I am scared, embarrassed, angry...I am trying not to feel worthless because I know that's not going to help but it's hard.
The weekend is going to be so hard - during the week I can go to work to distract myself but today and tomorrow...I just don't know.
I have been with my boyfriend who is an addict for seven years whichakes me his codependent now he is clean going on 62 days he is telling me I need to also change my life and way of thinking he fails to understand that he has mentally messed me up cheating on me constantly lieig to me so many trust issues made and makes me feel.so unloved and unwanted
I have been with my current boyfriend for a year now. It has been an incredibly rocky year. I had not completely broken things off with my last "friend with benefits" who was detrimental and now that I have learned about codependece and recognizing every sign and symptom of codependency in my relationship with him, which caused me to spiral into a deep depression. Anyway, I felt bad ignoring him...