I have struggled with compulsive buying before but this week everything came to a head. I have $10,000 in credit card debt that I hid from my spouse. (I had been having part of my income deposited into another bank account and using that amount to pay the debt and spend some more). When we were at the bank this week, processing our mortgage refinance, my debt came out (right while we were in the bank). Initially I lied about it - saying I was helping my sister pay off her debt - but eventually I owned up to it. To all of it.
My husband is (understandably and rightfully) angry, hurt, confused...and a million other things I can't image. I am not sure how this is going to all play out. He did say the "d" word (divorce) but not as an option he wants to pursue right now, but in passing.
In our conversation, he asked me if I had an addiction. It took me aback for a minute because "addiction" had never ever crossed my mind but after doing research I think this is EXACTLY what I have. I am trying to be pro-active and have made an appointment with a councelor (for Monday).
I am scared, embarrassed, angry...I am trying not to feel worthless because I know that's not going to help but it's hard.
The weekend is going to be so hard - during the week I can go to work to distract myself but today and tomorrow...I just don't know.
I am feeling numb and traumatized right now. My alcoholic husband is very emotionally and financially abusive. He has been been stealing money from me since day one (& that was 24 yrs. ago). Does. crazy illegal things using my name to get things he wants. He has always been a huge LIAR. He likes to wait till Im very weak and vulnerable to hit me up for things he wants, (thats when he...
Anyone here in a relationship with a gambling addict?