Shopping Addiction Support Group
Oniomania (also known as shopping addiction), is the compulsive desire to shop. Similar to other compulsive behaviors, sufferers often experience the highs and lows associated with addiction. The purchase generates a mood of satisfaction, gives their life meaning, and lets them forget about their sorrows.
I collect dolls, mainly Barbies. I was really out of control with the shopping a couple years ago. I was engaged and am not now, mainly because of the shopping. It was really a blessing in disguise that he left me, because he was emotionally abusive which is part of why I shopped. I managed to not buy any dolls on ebay or in stores from July to December. In fact, I sold $7,000 worth of stuff on ebay, but I am down to $1,500 now. I've blown it on dolls of course. I feel so out of control and am scared that I do not have enough control to hang on to this money. I was molested while growing up. One of my best friends is basically unavailable because she is married to a sorry loser, and my other good friend has become really self-absorbed lately and I don't know why. Needless to say, I am lonely, and I think this is why I have blown so much money lately. I can't find a sexual abuse survivor group that meets in person to save my life. I don't know why these are so low priority to counselors. Does anyone have any suggestions on anything?
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First of all, I am sorry to hear about your childhood.I wondered if your collection of dolls was something to do with trying to return to childhood or maybe not?
Anyway, I have googled and found info on this site with meetings I hope will help: http://www.ascasupport.org/
asca= Adult Survivors of Child Abuse
I also suffered neglect and know what emotional and physical abuse is like in relationships.You are a worthwhile person.
It is time to recgonise that and treat yourself well. No more a****s of men for starts!
As touched on before in my posts, you need to try and take back control and set yourself steps. I have had and do have various addictions-I had to change the thoughts in my head to: I CAN (not shop,drink etc) instead of 'I'll never do it'.
Set yourself goals-no looking on ebay for X days' etc and do it. You will feel great.
Some counsellors are good, others not so.
I'm here if you want to talk.
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My husband has so far stayed by my side. But I've spent so much it's awful.