Sexual Abuse Support Group

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Will i ever trust again??

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My partner, farther of my twins, the man i loved so dearly sexualy assulted my 16 year old daughter from a previous relastionship while she slept in my home!
I have been single for 4 years apart from a man i have known for 12 years and have been in a relationship with him a short while. I know i can trust him with my children but i know hes not the man i want to spend the rest of my life with. We broke up and I ment a amazing man that I could have fallen in love with, but because Im afraid that something like that will happen again, I went back to the man that Ive known for 12 years.
The sad thing is he prefers to be in the pub at week ends than with me and im putting up with it because i dont want to be on my own anymore!!
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You know I don't know what to say to this. I'm sorry I can't help. I just responded because I didn't want your post to get lost.
((((HUG))))
deleted_user
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Here's an update...... decided after all i have been through I deserve better than a man that puts the pub befor me. Ive ended the relationship! Being single can be lonely, i should know, did it for 4 years!
deleted_user
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good for you. your taking your life back. You know what it would be like with him, now you can mold your own life to your liking. I have been single for 12 years and it can be lonely but no more lonely than when I am with someone. Meaning I am still struggling with the emotional brainwashing as a result of the abuse.

Life can be scary but the alternative doesn't look so rosey either.
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Good for you! Being single is never fun, but you will be better off. Though if you were abused a lot of times we will take the lesser of the best. As far as trusting, you will trust again, it just takes time.. Take care of yourself and your children! :)
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Being single can actually be fun. I didn't date after my divorce for 2 years...I only had myself and the children to look after, I could do whatever I wanted and didn't have to compromise with anyone! It's all in how you look at it.
deleted_user
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Thankyou so much for your replies, at the moment the tears are flowing and i feel like crap!! I WILL be ok, just not sure about the trust thing?
deleted_user
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its new for you...it will take time to adjust. but im only 16 and im scared to be in a relationship with a man...so what do i know?
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16, 26, 46 makes no difference, it still hurts the same!
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