Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I want to know the reasons people have for protecting or not pressing charges against thier attacker? I understand not wanting to revisit the pain, and maybe everyone would like to leave well enough alone, but is that okay? My father just killed the spirit of everyone in my family. And he romes the earth free, I want something to be taken away from him. I want vengence, some sort of closer. And pray that I will receive it. But, I guess just for me, I want acknowledgement if anything. Some admittance and responsibility for what happened. I need it. He does not know that I know, I NEED for him to know. I want pain for pain. Cut for cut! Its hard to walk away, how do you?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
As far as why some of us protect our abusers, the reasons are many and some are personal and some are innocent. But each of us has to deal with the choices that we make, and that is what it ultimatly comes down to, what we can live with.
It dosen't matter what anyone else thinks about the event, its what you can live with.
Personally I protected my abusers because in doing so I felt I was protecting my family, it wasn't until I was in my 40's that I realized how wrong I was, but then I was a child when I made that choice. As an adult I only knew the location of one of my abusers, he knows what he has done. He will never be able to give me an answer as to why, I know this. But I also believe in my heart that he will have to account for it at some point.
I don't know that I ever forgave any of them, I only moved on. Thats the best any of us can do. Live with out hate in your heart and you will live a happier and better life.
One thing about the acknowledgement...you may NEVER get it from him, and you have to be aware of that. You know it happened, and that's all that counts. I pray your family supports you, but sometimes, that isn't so. Harder to get through if your family don't support and believe you.
Healing yourself is of utmost importance.
Release your anger SAFELY...try hard not to self harm...Scream, yell, write it out, hit a punching bag....let your anger flow out SAFELY.
You will feel better afterwards.
If you feel like you want to prosecute him, do so. It's your decision. You were hurt by him, and you will have to live the rest of your life with the pain and resulting mental issues that come about from the trauma.
But, if you choose not to, that's ok too...Know that he will get his Glory in HELL. Meet his maker...SATAN!
am not prone to violently expressing that anger I try and always to do it productively though writing and music. So, I don't think I will resort to self injury. But thankyou for your concern. Theses feelings of hate are either going to come out in me confronting him, or leaving him and cutting communication .....
Would revenge help you?