
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
there are two posts here that really helped me to understand a little.
http://dailystrength.org/discussions/Sexual_Abuse/messages/1427315
http://dailystrength.org/discussions/Sexual_Abuse/advice/1436167
a lot of the time, i think some ppl just don't care about others. Sometimes people just don't see anything outside of themselves. Like they are in such a bad place that there mind just doesn't have room for anyone else.
Sociopaths...ppl with out sympathy, empathy and feeling.
and that's when i feel hate...true pure and solid. it scares me to feel that way... they say choose your enemy wisely... heh i'm so angry and scared. and i don't want to be.
Everyone who is abuse do NOT abuse. Many became protectors.
His happened at a childcare centre when he was 4. Each day I hurt and try to live with his pain as well as mine.
The thing I hate is, even when u try ur hardest to protect ur children, such sick behaviour can occur.
I wish i could hve killed all of the men who harmed me, and the wh harmed my child. I know I'm better than that, as two wrongs dont make a right.
The thought is lovely though.
Fixated, regressed...whatever the reason or motivation it just doesn't matter...they are all rooted in evil. It's a choice to commit evil. Anyone who chooses to to defile, take and destroy the innocence of a child for any reason is beyond sick...it's engaging in an unadulterated evil that changes the course of the child's life forever.
i didn't mean to imply that you were mirroring anyone =[
i'm sorry
what i ment was...
it helped me to understand why some ppl do these things even after they themselves have been abused and they are grown.
Also it helps my understand why i participated with other children in these things when i very young. I call it participation because i was a part of a group of kids in various crack houses and dealers homes. [my parents]
all of us abused...around the same age, and simply did not know better. I don't consider for an instant that i am interested in doing such things to kids. now or ever. and i definitely don't think all abuse victims become abusers.
honestly, when i was a child,...i never knew it was wrong to behave this way. i just didn't know that's not how ppl normally are.
something i've held onto for my entire life. i will always hate myself for it. But it helps to know that somehow i did learn very young, i don't know how, school? even while my own
abuse continued.
And i became scared of other children when i saw that this wasn't how ppl should be. When someone showed me the existence of love and kindness... that person prolly has no idea, but she saved me.
i still thought that a lot of kids were like sick like that when your alone with them,...so i withdrew from every soul on this earth.
When i'm talking about hate...i'm talking about the ppl who have seen that this isn't healthy or okay and continue to do it....i'm talking about the adults who hurt us all while we were living there.
to this day i can't look at a child with out fear. what if someone's hurting them right now?
i'm sorry if this offends you, i don't mean it you be offensive or argumentative. i just thought the post might help you understand why some ppl do this.