Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Why do people get angry!!

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When you tell them about your sexual abuse story (which is hard enough in itself) and you didn't tell the police..

I was raped when I was 15 and I didn't tell the police. I told my best friend (at the time) who called me a liar and told me I couldn't be friends with her anymore and she became best friends with him... Anyway that's another story.

If I had told the police I wouldn't have had my families or friends support. I was scared and hurt and I didn't know what to do. I went along pretending it didn't happen for so long (and washed away the evidence as I've been told).


It's so easy for people to judge and say you should go to the police and put him away etc etc but it's not that easy. I'm not condoning rape or sexual abuse at all in anyway..

I'm sick of people yelling and getting angry with me when I did what was best for me at the time. Selfish? I don't care.
Juice
Juice
You said it, right at the end, you did what was right for you at the time, and you have no reason to feel bad about that.
You're not selfish. Stay strong:)
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I know what you mean. I didn't tell anyone till after 2 weeks, not even my husband. They got mad and I try to explain why, but it just doesn't regiter with them. I also hate people judging me. I hope that you can find a way to get better, you need support, i can be here for you...Dina xoxo
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Until a person has suffered thru a situation they cannot and should not judge what another person does to get thru it.
You needed and still need to take care of you!!!
Survive anyway you can!!!
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I'm behind you; YOU are your first priority and you do what's right for you, not what others think you should do.....this is such a personal matter, no one else should be judging you for the decisions you made/make. If they do, recognize it is out of ignorance. Justice is important, no question, but in the end it has to be YOUR decision.
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I think people who have NEVER walked in our shoes feel like its their fault sometimes for not protecting the victim.I had a lot of "why didnt you tell me I could of done something about it then" I think to myself I didnt tell you because I thought you'd act exactly the way your acting now!

Honey your young yet, and you have many years ahead of you.YOU need to worry about you,and whats good for YOU! Thats what I think..I hope I helped you.
Im here ALWAYS if you need an ear,or a friend.
God Bless you!
Kathie
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Thank you everyone =]
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I heard from a reliable source that when it comes to picking the jury for a rape trial, lawyers for the prosecution hate to pick women. The reason being that women are more likely to set the rapist free! This is because they see themselves in the victim, and can't bear to think that it could happen to them, so they look down on her and hate her and blame her. You're not the one on trial here!
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I totally agree it is what YOU feel right at the time, nothing anyone else says or does makes any difference, I fully understand your feelings, just think how I kept it inside eating away at me for over FORTY YEARS yes 40yrs so as I said YES I DO UNDERSTAND and all I dare add is be strong & be brave take what support is on offer for YOU, always remember it is YOU that matters.
Take care. John. UK
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unless you have been there they cannot understand what you feel.... you are not selfish, dont ever think that!!!
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I was also raped when I was 15, I ended up going to a rape center to get tested and also I did not file a police report. I have not told to many people what had happend in fear of there reation. And when I have told certain people that I trust sometimes I got a reaction that was not great. So I understand how U feel. U know it has been a very long time since this has happend to me but it is still with me and haunts me. It has been almost 9 years. Please take care and hugs for u.
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Thanks everyone. At least I know I'm not alone. We're the most important people and we must do what is right for us.

My counselor (who is the biggest jerk ever!) said that if I filed a report I'd have a 5% that it would go to court and less than 1% chance he would be found guilty. How could I put myself through that on my own?
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your a couragous woman, yes its true you did what you felt best at time, ive only now got courage to try an confront my years of rape an abuse an im going through police an courts at present its hard harder than i could have ever dreamt. like yourself im sick of people yelling ie family they have vear cheek to do so but y shouls wee expect anything less from shrude people takecare
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Snoot- Thank you and you should be very proud of yourself. It's not easy to be strong and stand up and tell people your story and it's not easy when people don't listen and believe you. Good luck.
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