
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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I have seen so many comments about how the parents refused to believe their child when they told them they had been abused. Not only that but also continuing to place that child in harms way even after they were told. I simply cannot fathom how a parent could do that!!
I was lucky, when I blurted it out that my father was [quote] a "child molester" my mom believed me and kicked him out of the house for good.
When my own daughter came to me and told me she had been abused I believed her at once (I had taught her about inappropriate touching etc and to come and tell me at once).
But how many of you were not believed? If you had the chance to go back to your parent and give them a piece of your mind, what would you say to them?
Feel free to vent..........
I have seen so many comments about how the parents refused to believe their child when they told them they had been abused. Not only that but also continuing to place that child in harms way even after they were told. I simply cannot fathom how a parent could do that!!
I was lucky, when I blurted it out that my father was [quote] a "child molester" my mom believed me and kicked him out of the house for good.
When my own daughter came to me and told me she had been abused I believed her at once (I had taught her about inappropriate touching etc and to come and tell me at once).
But how many of you were not believed? If you had the chance to go back to your parent and give them a piece of your mind, what would you say to them?
Feel free to vent..........
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I DID give her a piece of my mind in August of this year. Boy, I yelled and screamed at her, and just let her have it.
She is still married to that Abuser...and she still remains in Denial...but says she believes me...but I know she is still in some sort of Denial.
This has distanced us a lot...before it was like we just skipped over the elephant in the room...but after I found out it was that A-Hole Abuser that was causing all this distress...PTSD...in my life...The anger hit the fan...and it all came flooding out.
I can not imagine not believing your own flesh and blood, or even anyone you love and care about so much. I love my kids so much, I could not hurt them anymore by denying what hurts them or who hurt them.
I was even hospitilised twice with 'v' injuries in the 60's, i was told to go home and be a good girl, stay out of trouble and i would be alright.
Now, my mum says she is sorry my dad abused(wont talk about what kind of abuse) me but she says, it was 'not his fault, he was a very sick man' (with a slow low sad voice, giving him empathy)
When I tried to ask her for help,she told him what I said and I was beat.
When I moved out at 15, I asked her why she did not help me? She told me she did not believe me. I have distinct memories of my mother seeing, hearing and learning that my father was a sadistic monster...
I have had no mother or father through the important events in my life... getting married, giving birth, deaths in the family, graduations from college, grandparents for my children... I am sure you get the picture.
This is not a self-pitty post, just what happened after joining this community.
Finally getting it OUT.
There are many coping strategies and then there are different side effects to them when they remain a part of us. Like the survivors who use the mental shut down of their feelings. So the event does not touch their soul and keeps their sanity intact. They do it so well that when they grow up they have trouble feeling different emotions. So often cutting starts so they can feel.
Your parents failed because they themselves for whatever reason are broken most often abused themselves. They had not the strength to rise up and protect their children. Thus the injustice is passed to the next generation
I read a report that was interesting. There was a social event planned and had a control group of three men who beat their past mates. There were also three women who were from abusive relationships. They never meet but they found each other in that social and were pairing up as it was coming to a close. You come to your own conclusions.