You didn't have sex with him. He had sex with YOU and it's called sexual abuse. You didn't stop him because you couldn't. You didn't ask for this, you didn't want it and you certainly didn't cause this. He was the adult, you were the child. It was his job to care for you, to nurture you and protect you. He failed you and harmed you in an unspeakable way. I'm so sorry he hurt you. I applaud you for your bravery in telliing your family. You don't need their acceptance of the truth for it to be THE TRUTH. I am sickened that they supported him and not you but it is a common thing for families to do. Doesn't make it any easier to deal with but they do.

We are here to listen, to support you. (hugs) You are a survivor and a very brave girl.

you did nothing, he is the adult. you did not consent. dont let anyone convince oyu of this. he abused the trust your mother gave him and took advantage of you. his jpob was to protect oyu not violate you.

you did nothing, he did.

people get raped daily and 'did nothing to stop it' because they cant for a whole lot of reasons, good reasons

I thank you for your support and comments. It helps to hear others say it wasn't my fault. I have felt guilty for years.

At no time is it okay for an adult to have sex with a child. I have struggled years with why didn't I stop it? why did I do it? MY therapist has drilled in my head that I had no choice he had control not the other way around. You were not at fault stop beating yourself up.