
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Why can't I move on from what happened? It was a long time ago, but I just can't. I've moved on from one distructive pattern to another. I'm just so alone. The only person who understood, the only one who 'got' me died a month ago. My other friends just don't understand and my family have no idea that anything has happened to me. My mum keeps asking me why I don't have a partner, and the reply "I'm too busy" has worn thin.
Do we ever really recover? Or do we just build a life around it, hidding it, burying it until it consumes and destroys us.
Do we ever really recover? Or do we just build a life around it, hidding it, burying it until it consumes and destroys us.
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Building a life hiding our past will only work for so long, my past was buried for 20 years, now I'm dealing with it.
Gentle healing, and I am sorry for your pain.
It will take time to rebuild your trust into having a partner. Many of us here "Got" you so you can lean on us
Sorry about your loss
My wonderful, wise therapist (finally I found one!) said to me:
The past lives inside of us. We don't live in the past.
That statement has lifted some of my self-blame. It's not my fault I'm still in pain.
When my sister died (much too young), she was my mother figure. I greived, and no one told me to get over it. I still miss her to this day (14 years later). But the hurt does not hurt as bad.. I did not try to wake up one day and be over it. The pain has dulled over time, but there will not be a Christmas that I don't miss her and cry for her to be there!
With abuse, we have to get the "get over it" mentality out of our heads. We must morn for our innocence. Then as time goes on, learn to cope, so our pain begins to dull so that it is managable.
I think we will recover in the sense that adicts recover. We have to make a decision everyday to not be a victim and not slip back into destructive behaviors. I think that first we have to be able to stand up and say "My name is ____ and I am a sexual abuse survivor" to crush the shame and secrecy that so many of us feel. (I, myself, am no where near able to do that!)