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why am i so angry?

this2willpass
this2willpass
im angry all the time, its never really aimed at anyone in particular, its just at everything and everyone, it can be constant, i mean like for hours and hours, but it can come and go in an instant, and when it does im furious for absolutely no reason. i wonder if its because of my abuse, i kind of think it is, but im not angry at them, im angry at him and myself, and i dont scream at myself, i cut myself, so why do i get angry with everyone else, they're not him? i dont mean to be mean or to hurt them, but i cant stop how i feel, do you think its pent up and has to go at someone, anyone who is around? becuase thats what im starting to think.
would be grateful for a response!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Anger is part of the healing process. My counseler keeps telling me dont get sad get angry and I find myself getting angry with the ones I love. And as you said one minute I could be laughing and the next I find myself getting angry and taking it out on any one around me and then I am fine Just need to get it out. Don't be hard on yourself explain to them what is happening to you and that you dont mean to take it out on them They should understand. It is a hard thing to deal with. Thinking of you.
xoxo
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's amazing all the different emotions we go through as people who've been abused and anger is one of the major ones and can actually be a symptom of other things (depression for example) Sadly it usually IS misdirected...a lot of times towards ourselves. For some reason it's almost like the abuser still has some kind of hold on us and we can't direct that anger towards THEM. I don't know if you are getting help or not, but I found getting some counseling and learning how to deal with that anger and turn it outward was a really big help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
There's nothing wrong with feeling angry.

What you do with that anger and how you release it is another story though.

Boxing helped me a lot with my anger and it got me incredibly fit at the same time
deleted_user
deleted_user
I totally and 100% understand what you're saying. I've felt exactly what you're feeling now. I was so angry for a really long time. And it was at everyone and everything. I was mad at the whole world. I even blamed those who helped me heal. It didn't matter who they were! I was mad at them! It got so bad that I had no other choice but to put may rage on the person that deserved it. I had a meeting with my abuser set up and I let go of all my anger. I screamed and cussed and even beat him up a little bit. I was looking at him as an adult this time. He didn't scare me any more. He had no more power over me and he would NEVER hurt me again. As I left that meeting, my anger left too. It took a little time, but eventually the anger was gone. Do I still feel anger sometime? Heck, yes! But, it doesn't control me anymore and I can handle it better. I hope that this info helps you in some way. You'll be in my prayers.
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