Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
This is a topic I want to bring up for discussion. Why does everyone want us to feel shame for being sexually molested or raped as children? I feel like almost everyone I talk to thinks I should be ashamed to talk about what happened to me. They think I should not pursue criminal charges because I will embarasse my family. I am talking about counsellors, advocate, my family of course and most people I talk to. I am not ashamed of what was done to me as an innocent child. I did not ask to be raped or tortured. I can not believe how society expects victims of sexual crimes to stay hidden in shame. Is that really what society wants" You must feel shame. No I do not feel shame. Tfhe men who raped me are the ones to be ashamed, not me. Please give me your reaction to this and how you find people make you feel. It seems like the victime have the shame and blame put on to them all the time and this is wrong.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
maybe I could of done something is what I hear lot
or maybe I wanted that or enjoyed that
guess people dont see that hurts to
maybe people just like theyre happy bubbles and dont want anything to affect it?
What kind of support or more accurately lack of support do u have?!! How horrible for people to say u should be ashamed and u will bring shame on the family. Im so glad u realise urself that u should have no shame. What happened to u could have happened to anyone and like u say u were an innocent, vulnerable child. Im lucky in that I have a very supportive family who wanted me to press charges but understood when I couldnt go through with it.
I have had bad experiences with some responses though. ONe of my exs used it against me in arguments. His ignorant parents had a bit of a concern that if I had children I may abuse them because I was abused. My recent ex was great and non-judgemental about it but he told ppl about my abuse when I told him i didnt want him telling anyone and he told people he know I hated too!! Unfortunately not everyone is going to be supportive but at least u know u can come here and we have been though was u have and u have our support.
As to pressing charges, if u have the strength to do that good on you! Unfortunately it was my dad who abused me and despite what he did to me, I still loved him and couldnt press charges. YOu have amazing courage to be considering pressing charges.
I havent actually heard before that people think we should feel ashamed. That is a new one for me.
I wish u the best of luck, stay strong and find some supportive people.