Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I have always remembered the sexual, physical and emotional abuse. My mom didn't do anything to stop it. My sister remembers it as well. Over the last 10 years I have tried to confront my parents and have been told that I am a trouble maker and the devil. I never dealt with all of my feelings of the abuses until this October. I had what they call 2 triggers and entered into the crisis period. My anxiety was through the roof, couldn't sleep, couldn't function. The panic attacks were a surprise. I cried all the time and was angry as all hell. This went on for about 2 weeks. My husband had no idea what was going on and neither did I. So I got my butt into counseling and my doctor has me on Zoloft and Ativan to help. I do not remember much from the age of 5-10. I tried contacting my mom in October for some kind of comfort and instead told me to go to church and that I had no place in their lives. My husband has been great support and lets me cry on his shoulder and hold me. I struggle constantly with what is a healthy balance. I do have some of my mom's traits and have been in the process of slowly changing them. The counseling is helping along with the journaling. It is hard to think of your parents as wanting nothing to do with you and that is the part that hurts the most. They have never admitted to anything and claim what is in the past is in the past now move on and be happy. I have made up my mind that I must mourn them and let them go. I do wonder when I will feel back to normal or is there such a thing?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I don't want to see my parent ever again because they abuse me and my body is telling me to stay away.
Please talk to the little girl on you and tell her that she has you now.
Also drugs are not the solution. Drugs help you to deny the pain and you need the pain to get better.
We're here if you need to rant. I can't imagine what it's like to be betrayed by the very people who should have protected you. Your husband sounds like a lovely man, thank God!!
Normal is how you feel when you're on the road to recovery. Normal is different for everyone. Maybe there is no normal! Rambling, sorry!Maybe you should think about better rather than normal?
Hugs:)
What you said is so true. I have held out hope and am facing the harsh reality of all this. I feel alone because the 2 people who meant the most in my life have betrayed me. I sometimes fantasize about beating and torturing them.
I rant in therapy and to my husband. I use a nerf bat to beat the hell out of the bed and that works.
I was abused by my mother in every way, my father was indifferent towards me and walking away from them cost me my son who turned to them.
Despite all of that it was the best thing i have ever done, my abusive relationships and marriage can be traced directly back to my family and the damage they inflicted upon me at a time when I was too young to know any different. Normal in my experience is a subjective word, what is normal for me may not be normal for you. I think when you feel comfortable with yourself is a good, healthy place to be.
I now work as an advocate and speaker for abuse victims and I am looking towards getting support groups together for abused men and non-abusing families of victims of Domestic Violence.
If you ever want to trade violent revenge fantasies I will be more than happy - my best one involves a can of petrol, a church steeple and some cheese wire! lol. Having these thoughts is natural and part of the healing process - it is a way of acknowledging what was done to us was wrong and the betrayal is sharper because it was done by people whose role it was to protect us.
You are not alone, you have people who care and if you ever want to talk I am always here. Give yourself a big hug, love Viv xXXXXXX