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So i know it goes against the 'norm' to even address this, but i'm really struggling with the absence of anger. i have a full range of most other emotions, and a hefty dose of anxiety, but i've never in my life been able to feel anger. i was abused at the age of 13 by my father. i reported him to the authorities when it happened, wasn't believed, and was sent to mandatory counseling with him for a year to talk about why a daughter would "do such a thing as lie" about this to her father.
i know cognitively that i need to feel anger as a part of getting through this. i thought for a long time my depression was it, but now the depression has lifted and there's just...nothing. not flatness per se, but i can't fathom ever getting angry.
i know cognitively that i need to feel anger as a part of getting through this. i thought for a long time my depression was it, but now the depression has lifted and there's just...nothing. not flatness per se, but i can't fathom ever getting angry.
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Survival mode. Mandatory counseling doesn't work, either. Been down that road and all I did was take advantage of the poor woman. Can't say when, but it will come. Believe me.
Half of my therapy sessions I have about any issue that has made me angery is really spent trying to deconstruct what anger really means...
The fact of the matter that anger is a socially acceptable emotion... anxiety, hurt, saddness are less so... So if these are the other things that you are feeling you are probably hitting the heart of the problem more so than bundling it all up in an angry ball.
But i also agree you probably have also not tapped the anger well... you will no need to rush it or fake it.
So. Here it goes. Take advantage of this moment. Write it down. Read it aloud, to yourself so that these moments of absent-anger is...and this is where I'm developing it.
What I mean is...when and/if the anger comes, and I really hope it won't, the journal, the writing of those moments is the landmark posts you can rely on. Does that makes sense? I mean, this is a potentially good sign. To write it down? I don't know, I'm sorry, it seemed better in my head.
Unfortunately for my family and friends, anger was all I -could- feel for about four years after I reported my father. However, I think I was more angry at myself for letting myself be put through it all.
Good luck :]