Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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I posted something about this a few weeks ago, but here is more information. Basically I was asking if I was abused at 8 years old when a boy 4 years older showed me porn and asked me to suck his penis. I said ok, but you suck mine first. He did for a fraction of a second, when it was my turn I said "No Way", and left. I think it is abuse because he was looking to get sexual gratification, maybe he even did get aroused. But maybe my reaction to the event as no big deal means it wasn't sexual abuse.

My life has always been kind of screwed up, is this the hidden reason? Maybe there are other things I don't remember? I don't know, tell me what you think.

Chili
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I don't understand. A 4 year old showed you porn??? The 4 year old was sexually abuse yes. Yes he did abuse you because he was abuse by others and pass the abuse to you. Looks like you have more then this to deal with in your past.
You can read The drama of the gifted child Alice Miller this book would help you to see what you have
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No, he said the other kid was 4 years OLDER than him, so the kid was 12. You know, when it comes to kids, most of the time they're just experimenting, and don't always realize what they're doing. Did the other kid know all that much about sex or not? When I was about 7, my piano teacher's son exposed himself to me. Was that abuse? No, I think it was just a kid being a kid. When I was about the same age, I was most definitely abused by my grandfather, and it's affected my life in a very profound way. Whereas I haven't really even thought twice about that kid. I guess you just have to think about how much of an effect it really did have on you, and work through it with a counselor, if it was that disturbing to you.
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Thanks for your replies they helped. I think I was more effected by looking at porn at that age. I had my own stash at 12. I don't think my relationships have been right because of it.

Chili
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