Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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They dont deserve death

deleted_user
deleted_user
Im still trying to come to terms with being raped by my uncle but do not think these people should be given death sentences.Here's why, Firstly, they should not be given the easy way out, they should suffer for what they have done, so yes prison sentences should be longer for these people. Secondly, i believe that these people have psychological issues that tell them what they are doing is ok, therefore there should be help out there for people to overcome their desire to abuse women or children. And thirdly, people are not taught enough about how sexual abuse takes over peoples lives for the rest of their lives. Im not excusing abusers in any way, i just feel that society in itself does not help. Sexual abuse should be spoken about more and people should be made aware of the issues as young people. then maybe less boys will grow up to think abusing people sexually is ok.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with you that abuse takes over people's lives. There are many factors involved, such as depression, self injury, sexual dysfunction, trust issues and more important issues so the list goes on and on. I also think you're right when discussing how abuse affects survivors and that needs to be addressed early on. So much talk on abuse alone but what about the aftereffects. I think this is why I would like to see sex offenders die. I agree to disgree with you on that issue. There seems to be no known cure so that is why I take the death sentence stand. Good points raised Cazza. Thanks for the dialogue. Have a great day and take good care.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I totally agree with you. My cousin was 14 at the time and i dont think his age excuses it. Maybe more education would help. I think i was an experiment, trying out what he thought was 'sex' as i was 9 which is pathetic. More definately should be done to stop it from happning.
Desertdancer
Desertdancer
Education would be a great help. Unfortunately, boys are still being raised to think that it's manly to dominate and objectify girls and women. As long as we live in sexist culture steeped in violence and mysogny not a lot is going to change. It's a lot worse today than when I was a teenager in the 1970s. It's not just that people are reporting abuse more. Our world has become more violent. It's almost a rite of passage for boys to molest girls.

I had one boy say to me he saw females as prey. Typical sexual predator thinking, more common than we think. He was the boy next door type.

Knowing how much this is a part of our culture has helped me focus on working for justice and change and helped me to take all the abuse that's been heaped on me less personally.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I used to think that I wanted my abuser to die, but you are right they need to be punished and jail is punishment for them that will be well served. However, the problem with that is the offenders are getting off easy sometimes only getting a few months of jail time. What needs to happen is states need to come up with harsher laws for abusers making them pay for the hurt and violation of the victums bodies. That is why so many people do not report it, because well the abuser will have to spend as little as three months in jail sometimes. I think that the system needs to be fixed, before we start to worry about their mental health. Sorry if I have rammbled.
this2willpass
this2willpass
castration. nuff said.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think that the punishment should fit the crime. Someone that is a repeat offender and violent should get the death penalty. But for those younger "boys", is the death penalty fitting? For my offender, I think that a LONG stay in prison would have been sufficient. He had shown remorse to me on more than one occasion, and I don't think he deserves the death penalty either. Education should be a requirement, enough is not being done. Parenting classes/education for kids should be a requirement.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i almost disagree completely, i think that the rapist shood get the death penalty, but in a Chinese torture sorta way..they shood die for the hell they put us thro...in jail they get treated than alot of ppl do living in the US..seriously...i think education wood be good but it woodnt stop the ppl who have already engraved in there heads that sex is to be a one way thing and that its ok to do even for helpless ppl...no i think they deserve the worst kind of death out there...they humiliated us and destroyed us..they shood have the same done to them
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thank God, Karma, the Universe, the Goddess, Energy, etc. that my abuser is in his 50's now and is dying a slow painful death, daily on dialysis, a painful procedure. Makes me happy.
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