
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Ok i have been here for a while and I have to admit it was definately a good move to come here.
In my brief time here it has been well wrorth all the emotions that has come with finanlly dealing with this stuff.
I have heard a lot of loving and just really good people giving there stories and supporting each other. I have asked a lot a questions and got great answers and a lot of support. I have read great poems and heart breaking stories. This is definately a great place.
I would like to hear some very positive things that have happened on your journey to recovery (i am not sure if recovery is a good term).
what where some of the milestones you reached.
I think we need to hear as much of the positive as the negitive. It would be nice to hear how those of us who have progressed in the process and help some of us who have not progresed as far in the process to understand what to expect?
What are the good things to come, so to speak.
In my brief time here it has been well wrorth all the emotions that has come with finanlly dealing with this stuff.
I have heard a lot of loving and just really good people giving there stories and supporting each other. I have asked a lot a questions and got great answers and a lot of support. I have read great poems and heart breaking stories. This is definately a great place.
I would like to hear some very positive things that have happened on your journey to recovery (i am not sure if recovery is a good term).
what where some of the milestones you reached.
I think we need to hear as much of the positive as the negitive. It would be nice to hear how those of us who have progressed in the process and help some of us who have not progresed as far in the process to understand what to expect?
What are the good things to come, so to speak.
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This to me was a defining moment a few years back. I new I had ACCEPTED what had happen and a lot of damage was done to me.
This happened when I was standing over the grave of my abuser while i was saying a prayer for him.
It hit me like a ton of bricks. I was just apsolute accetance of what had happened. I believe that was my first real step in reconvery. It was a real milistone. My path became clear. I was ready to heal.
2) the day i started getting help, because i decided that i didn't want to be trapped anymore and acknowledged that there was something i could do about it
3) the day i was able to see myself as a survivor, not a helpless victim
4) the day that i realized that, even though i'm not ready to do it yet, i want to be able to forgive the man who abused me
5) the first time i let a guy hold me and didn't have a panic attack
6) this past week, when i finally accepted that IT WAS NOT MY FAULT!!!
i look forward to:
1) not being afraid of the dark anymore
2) the day i can forgive the man who abused me
3) being able to be comfortable with who i am as a woman
2) Learning to trust a man (my boyfriend)
3) Finally hearing my mother admit she handled things wrong when I told her about the abuse.
4) Finally understanding a lot of my idiosyncrasies and habits etc that had developed as a result of the abuse
5) Finally enjoying sexual activity!
6) When I made the conscious decision to NOT be a depressive disaster and to finally start to put my life back together and heal.
I'm still working on:
1) Really opening up about it to my boyfriend
2) Remembering everything that happened - I think it will give me some sense of closure
3) I'm debating sending a letter to my abuser letting him know the damage he did. Not sure about that one yet, it might be really cathartic
4) Not having nightmares anymore
I know that we all have come a long way whether or not we realize it!
I am not longer super triggered when I hear the word "Prague"
I do not have a lot of nightmares lately
The "normal" stuff that happened doesn't bother me as much any more
I will walk across campus at night, even though I am super scared.
I can go into the basement if I have to and no longer make such a huge "U" when I walk around the basement door
That's all I can think of.
* Making sure my kids are never around my abusers and that nothing will go bump in the night for them
i feel like maybe i can stand on my own feet and do good things for myself.
i see that i deserve better.
i see how the abuse is affecting my life in ways i never knew possible....and i do have the power to change that
i'm not ready to really think about my past still, but i have noticed SO much good from DS in just a few short weeks....i'm amazed
i now have HOPE