Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Telling of your abuse

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Does anyone else not even flinch when they tell someone of their abuse? To me its just like saying "Hey, how are you?" to someone

Why is that? It doesnt make sense and it doesnt seem right, I feel like I should be scared and crying whenever I tell someone

I guess its a good thing that I dont really feel any pain, isnt it?
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Either good, or bad. It may mean your okay, but it may mean your repressing everything right now and it will slam you later. Who knows? We all react diferently.
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Its already hit me and I am going through the police statement at the moment. I think ever since I bought it out in the open I feel, okay about it, like I KNOW it wasnt my fault :(
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Yes, actually, in Allies in Healing the author says that for a long time she would basically say 'Hi, my name is _____, did you know I was sexually abused?'.
I went through this phase for quite some time. I'm still very open with it, though it's no longer the first thing I tell people. I wait until it looks like it might become an issue.
Like... Recent example, made a new guy friend, and he started kind of hitting on me. So I said 'Hey, I was sexually abused, and I'm just not looking for a relationship'.
You're just trying to find out who you are in relation to the problem. For awhile it kind of consumes you. You ARE sexual abuse, not just a person who was sexually abused.
It eventually goes away.
But be proud of who you are. Never be ashamed. It's good that you feel like you've accepted it.
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ummm.... if you dont feel pain it probly hasnt really hit you yet. I dont have that I am starting to deal with my sexual abuse and it is so hard for me to tell.... It is the hardest thing i have ever done.
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i'm in your position. i mastered repression and dissociation probably before I could walk. there have been 2 times when I felt anything significant over what's happened to me, and I felt so relieved afterwards.

I haven't been able to do that since. I can tell any story of my life with no emotional attachment to it whatsoever.

This is not how I want to live, but I know it's an ingrained survival mechanism so I'm working to let things out and deal with them in a safe setting. What I just posted was the result of that...the first result actually.
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fear comes up to the surface we need to feel safer when we reveal painful stuff
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every time your scared and cring the next time your coping a little bit more.
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