
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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My brother sexually abused me when I was a small girl and, to this day, I haven't told my family. My parents know that I was sexually assaulted, but they have no idea that it was my brother.
Recently, through therapy, I've been doing better... but I don't feel like I can ever "get better" unless I confront this... I feel like I don't deserve any of the depression and grief I've had to deal with for the past 15 years. Meanwhile, my brother's life is full--he's getting married in a couple of months with kids. My life sucks, his seems great.
I'm wondering if there are people on here who have had a similar situation with a family member molesting them... how did you tell the rest of your family? Did you tell the rest of your family?? How on earth do you do it and do you recommend that I tell them???
PLEASE HELP.
Recently, through therapy, I've been doing better... but I don't feel like I can ever "get better" unless I confront this... I feel like I don't deserve any of the depression and grief I've had to deal with for the past 15 years. Meanwhile, my brother's life is full--he's getting married in a couple of months with kids. My life sucks, his seems great.
I'm wondering if there are people on here who have had a similar situation with a family member molesting them... how did you tell the rest of your family? Did you tell the rest of your family?? How on earth do you do it and do you recommend that I tell them???
PLEASE HELP.
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That said, if you're ready (and you want to) then you should tell your parents.
I wonder if your brother continues to offend or if his acts started and ended with you?
As for my cousin, his acts continued with other little girls and he eventually went to prison.
That's the only reason I feel badly for not telling, since he hurt others.
If you tell, it's up to you. I'd suggest you do it for the right reasons, mainly to make YOU feel better and help with your healing. If you're simply looking for revenge (because his life is good and yours isn't) then you might not get the pay-off that you're looking for. Just a thought.
You were the victim, so do what's best for you.
Good luck. I wish you peace.
I was molested by my father and I dont believe I would have told anyone. But he also did it to one of my friends and ended up being busted by them. He went to prison for this.
Now that I am older I feel much better talking about it. And because of what happened most of my family know. It is much better to get it off your chest, because yes it is quite depressing, but its hard to recover when it keeps going through your head and you cant speak to anyone about it.
The only thing is that my mum is upset it happened, for me. And that she didnt know it was going on. But now that we can talk about it (only over last 2 years), i think she feels reassured that it wasnt HER fault either. That we are both the victims.
All I can say is do what you think is best. But trust me it makes things easier if you can talk about them and they can come to understand why you act certain ways and can be fragile.
Good luck,
Stefanie
I know this sounds like a huge horror story and people usually say oh my god, I could never handle that! But it was actually very liberating. It hurt tremendously that my mother was unable to support me and she actually defended my dad at one point. But I stood up for myself! I felt better to get it off my chest, and I felt better for putting an end to abusiveness. I felt a lot stronger and more confident after that. To this day my sister doesn't believe me and lets her kids be babysat by him. My aunts all believe me and have given me wonderful support and validation.
Who do you feel most comfortable with in your family? Are you getting counseling so you can have a trained support person who knows how to deal with abuse issues? There are lots of issues, not just yours but your parents too. I'm so glad I had the counselor I had, who was trained specifically in sexual abuse.
I think you are right to be concerned for the children in your brother's life.
, but you have to make sure you are ready to cope with the reactions good or bad. Be strong.