ummm..... this is an open site, if you read the entire post then it is your fault... in that case you triggered yourself. I take caution with any thread I read. That is to take care of me. In case thre is something that will trigger me. If i see something I close it and go to another. We cant all cater to someone else. I dont think that you needed to use profanity like that. I am offeneded and if you want to talk like that then go to myspace!

I hope you understand what I just tried to get across.

Freedom of speech..... need I say anymore?

I am sorry you dont feel safe here, but dont blame that on anyone but yourself.

What did you find? Wasn't here was it? I stay out of some groups that I know will bug me, but this group has been cool.

I feel bad you are having such a difficult time. I don't know exactly what you are referring to but I can tell you this has been a great forum. We all have our moments here and without exception just the nature of the forum there are going to be triggers all the time.

I hope in time you can feel safe and remain open minded about this.

I made an error of judgement and posted most of my story on this SA board, i have asked DS for it to be removed, but i have been told it cannot be removed.
I can only hope it is not bumped.

My point was that I don't go to other communities, let's say the dieting community, and talk about what my father did to me, nor do I do it in full detail, do I? No...why?? Because it's inappropriate, that's why. I never singled anyone out, like those who chose to attack me for my opinion and stating my upset, as if I didn't have just as much of a right to do so, like the member who posts touchy subjects does. Hello!!!

If somebody just absolutely has to post something like that on there, they could at least make the title a little more ambiguous, making sure that a warning is there, (I am aware that there is one, but after words that people would easily start reliving from. I am not just concerned for myself here. Yes, I flew off the handle last night, it's part of my defense when I feel triggered. But this is a healing site, and if you think that putting up posts like that is funny, fine, just be a little more cautious with what you put as a title, that's all. Some people are as sensitive as that, and even though this is an open forum, consideration for those who are really struggling with subjects that are, just by common sense, assumed tricky, is a responsibility one should take in as far as where their thread is posted or what title it is given.
I don't think it is too much to ask, to think before posting any old thing in any old place.

I'm lost. I don't know who posted what to upset you. I hope it wasn't me. If it was please tell me. If it was I am very sorry. Is there a place where I can go for rules. This is a sincere question. I don't want to upset anyone (even if it wasn't me in the first place) I would like to know if I have to be more careful of things I write.

FFn-A lonekitsu...- I've seen something sick on this site once too - wonder if it's the same person. I wonder if there's a community for sexaholics or something - if so I say if you really want to help yourself then quit using this place to hookup.

I never used this place to hook up, iwonde. This isn't the place for that. You can't just assume I was trying to hook up. I was looking for people to help, actually. So wth?

I was talking @ the person putting out sexually perverted threads - you know, like the one you were complaining about?

Yea well if someone needs to talk about their sexual abuse you're gonna have to deal with it or stay out of that thread. If people are posting "sexual material" just to be an ass, then report it. Otherwise, DS is for all sorts of issues and we choose what we do and do not wish to read.

In all fairness there is no way of knowing what may or may not trigger someone unless you know that person 100% and that's just not realistic.

Lashing out and blaming and entire community is not only unfair to others but also non-constructive.

One thing it DOES point out however is that you (the poster) do not possess the necessary coping skills, nor decorum to post a diplomatic response to the situation.

Do not blame others for your emotionally responses to a situation, no-one can MAKE you feel an emotion, they may provoke an emotion for sure but it is YOU that is responsible for your actions not the community.

This was a joke thread in Depression forum, not somebody's story, which they would have every right to post. So get off my damn back. If you are just going to chew me out for expressing my feelings, while people can post even more inappropriate stuff in jest, besides a couple of bad words, don't post anything at all because that is such a double standard, it's pathetic.

You misunderstand my response. i am not "chewing you out" nor am I on your back.

If the thread was in the depression community then out of curiosity why post the response in this community?

And seeing as it was defined as a "joke" then perhaps you took it the wrong way?

Either way, I am neutral in the whole thing

I posted it here because I figured, in my rage, that people would better understand my reaction. I had no guidance and am trying very hard to heal on my own, until I have the means to find the right way.

It's cool, I took no offence by it and I understand where you are coming from. there are a lot of posts that I personally think have no place in certain communities but that's just my opinion. It's taken me ages to learn how to step back and not be tempted in posting a response to certain posts/people.

And hey....at least you and I were able to talk about it and realise that neither of us were trying to attack each other so that's all good.

Healing on your own must be difficult although I did my own personal research as well outside of therapy which in some cases I found to be quite useful.