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As for your mother I am sorry to say it this way but I think she is being selfish right now.
For a mother not to stand by her child...? I am touched by your anguish...
Please stay strong, and make healthy decissions for you and your baby.
I am sorry this is happening to you and I hope it gets better. YOu as a mother have no choice but to be strong and follow thru on your plan to keep your children away from him.
They have to be first and it is a terrible position your mother has put you in.
If your mother cannot be rational then.........
good luck
I liked what 45678 said. take care of yourself, always take care of yourself!
We can never explaine why people do the things they do, why your mum said that or why your sister is on his side, everyone with his demons,fears,and mindset. you don't need them to be by yourside, YOU need to be on your side. they can't really help you now.
If they could have helped you, they would have prevented it from happening. but they couldn't, so the trust is broken. You don't need them to believe you for you to find peace. you need to take responsibility on your healing.
Stay strong, make rules and stick to them. And if your rule is stay away from him, tell your mom " Dear mom, I know you best for me, but it didn't help me and now I need to take care of myself. I have a rule that he is out of my life , I expect you to respect it"
I'm not sure I can understand from your post if this was your dad, but whoever he was, he hurt your mom too. She is in a bad state too. I'm a mother myself, when I imagine someone hurting my daughter or my partner (her dad) hurting my daughter, I die, just thinking about it. think of your mom, she needs help too.
It is not your job to help her, yours is to take care of yourself, but suggest her to go and see someone because you can see she is not handling it well.
Help her, It'll help her help you.
Stay strong!
Ronit
http://www.ronitbaras.com