Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Site a trigger?

deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi.
I'm a new member after hearing from lots of people about the awesomeness of this site. Since being abused by 2 people I should have been able to trust as a minor my life has been crazy. However in the past couple of years I've gone to therapy and attempted to make improvements in my life.
As soon as I started reading through the Sa discussions I immediately found myself shrinking back into my old self. My first thought was that I really wish I had a drink. Then I wanted a cigarette. I know that if I wasn't so full from lunch I'd want to eat too! It's so sad how much those experiences have a hold over my life! I thought I was on the path to recovery and have been for years!
How have you all coped with that? Were you as fearful as I am of joining this community and dredging up thoughts?
deleted_user
deleted_user
In a way yes. I often find writing in a journal or posting online is really helpful, especially as I just cannot talk to anyone face to face. However there are times when reading back over what I have written, and sometimes what others have written just sends into a major panic attack where I cant breath and my hands go all tingly then numb. Often my vision starts to go as well. I actually closed my first account here because it was just too much, but I couldnt stop looking either. So I had a break and now I'm back and feel better able to handle it. Be strong :o)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was for sure. It was very intimadating. but it was worth it. welcme
deleted_user
deleted_user
the same day as i joind this site, well after i had a type of panic attack as no one nos about my abuse, i felt sick. When i first joind i thought of dealeting my account and everything but iv made a few good friends, but still sometimes i feel it all and have thoughts of not dealeting my account but not to some on
deleted_user
deleted_user
I had simmilar experiences with therapy, and i've not gone back yet... but the journals i've kept in the past have helped so much.
knowing that ppl might read them, even if they don't know me...or don't understand them was different then anything else i've tried.
i am new here too, and it is a bit scary and sad for me too.
SeekingStrength19
SeekingStrength19
I think it might be both hurtful and helpful to me. I've been having lots of memories accompanied by uncontrolled shaking (like chills) since joining this site. I don't know if that's helping or hurting my "recovery" (since it's a pretty new process). That said, I've found some amazingly wonderful people who have reached out and touched my heart in a way that I don't think I've ever experienced. The unconditional support I've found here outweighs any of the "negative" feelings I might be stiring up by reading some of the posts. I'm so glad to have found this site and these people. I think it may have actually saved my life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm a strong believer in breaks. I belong to more than one community. If I'm in a place where I don't want to talk about sexual abuse, I don't visit this community that day, I go to another one that is more mellow. I think when you come to a site like this people are at different phases of the healing process. No one is forced to share and that's what I like about it. I can come and go as I please, and that's okay.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was completely afraid. When I joined, I had never said what had happened to me out loud, directly, to anyone. Since joining I've been able to tell my new therapist the very first time we met and recently I told a very close friend and her husband about my abuse. I never thought that I would be able to get to a point were I could do that. I guess for me it has served as a sort of immersion therapy.
LindaJean
LindaJean
For me - having my feelings triggered is a God send. I stuffed my feelings for so long that I never knew how I felt - I just felt bad all the time, 24/7. And forget therapy - if you don't know how you feel you cannot tell a therapist how you feel. Here, when i read about someone else's feelings, I can identify - I then know how I felt when the abuse happened and/or how i feel now. At first it was very hard - but I am now in a place where I welcome the feelings - deal with them - and move on. This place is a God send.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Since it is coed here I was worried about talking to men even though they were like me. Some of them are sex addicts though too. I admire them fro wanting to get help but was a little freaked out about them even being in with the survivor group. That being said, I find it easier to be completely honest here as noone knows me so what could it hurt? I need answers. So do u. Keep coming and together we will find a way to deal with it.
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