Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
Ppl can be sexually abused and raped by their mates. I did with my first husband. And when i told ppl they said he was my husband and since he was the man i had to obey what he said and done...
He was very abusive to me and why i stayed with him for 17yrs is beyond me knowning. He was very jelous of me and accused me and followed me around all the time...
One day after working a double shift i came home tired laid across the bed and went to sleep with clothes on. He came in after work told me to undress he was going to have sex with me. I told him i was to tired he tore my clothes off me i was to tired to fight...
On and off in less then five minutes. About an hour later he wanted more i said NO he threw me on the bed tore my pjs off and told me i be sorry if i said no again.. I tried to get away he would not let me. Then he took his cigerete and burnt my nipples with it then i gave in...
When he was done with his five minute ordeal he put his cigerette out inside of my vagina i screamed with pain till i passed out...
For years i could not even think of having sex with a man, i didn't want to look at men, i hated them all and when a man say something to me i had a nasty remark to say back to them...
THis went on for years with my atittude towards men. I finally said their must be something wrong with me and then i went to see a therphist. I found out i was blaming all men for what my ex did to me(hubby at the time) and when i was raped by my brother when i was a child...
I learned through her not to be that way with all men as all men are not like that. Now i think their is some kind of law that a husband can be tried in rape of his wife seems to me someone told me that. I think they should be as they can rape as well as a stranger can...
I did meet a good man but i still treated him bad for awhile till one day he asked what he has ever done to me. I then broke down and cried and told him the whole story...
Well that man loved me so much just cause of whom i am, he is patient , kind and caring and he is my hubby now. I have learned alot from this good man and so thankful i went for help long ago that has brought much happiness into my life my hubby...
When we are sexual abused as a child it carries into our adult hoods and i know for me anyways sex was not an important issure to me growning up and when i got to be adult the sexual drive just is not their like it should be even now...
He was very abusive to me and why i stayed with him for 17yrs is beyond me knowning. He was very jelous of me and accused me and followed me around all the time...
One day after working a double shift i came home tired laid across the bed and went to sleep with clothes on. He came in after work told me to undress he was going to have sex with me. I told him i was to tired he tore my clothes off me i was to tired to fight...
On and off in less then five minutes. About an hour later he wanted more i said NO he threw me on the bed tore my pjs off and told me i be sorry if i said no again.. I tried to get away he would not let me. Then he took his cigerete and burnt my nipples with it then i gave in...
When he was done with his five minute ordeal he put his cigerette out inside of my vagina i screamed with pain till i passed out...
For years i could not even think of having sex with a man, i didn't want to look at men, i hated them all and when a man say something to me i had a nasty remark to say back to them...
THis went on for years with my atittude towards men. I finally said their must be something wrong with me and then i went to see a therphist. I found out i was blaming all men for what my ex did to me(hubby at the time) and when i was raped by my brother when i was a child...
I learned through her not to be that way with all men as all men are not like that. Now i think their is some kind of law that a husband can be tried in rape of his wife seems to me someone told me that. I think they should be as they can rape as well as a stranger can...
I did meet a good man but i still treated him bad for awhile till one day he asked what he has ever done to me. I then broke down and cried and told him the whole story...
Well that man loved me so much just cause of whom i am, he is patient , kind and caring and he is my hubby now. I have learned alot from this good man and so thankful i went for help long ago that has brought much happiness into my life my hubby...
When we are sexual abused as a child it carries into our adult hoods and i know for me anyways sex was not an important issure to me growning up and when i got to be adult the sexual drive just is not their like it should be even now...
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Hello all! I guess I am here for some advice. A bit about me. I am married and just had my 8th anniversary. We have three kids. I had a hysterectomy after the youngest. Before I met my DH, I was in an abusive relationship which left me with some issues. Sex has never been our most cohesive area. He has quite the sex drive, while I am more of a "take it or leave it" person. I love the intimacy...
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On July 25th, 2019 I had surgery for a torn ACL, this was suppose to mean 2 weeks of no weight baring but while in surgery they noticed a micro fracture as well so my 2 weeks no weight baring became 6 weeks. Just 4 days ago I was able to start weight baring I was told use a crutch or cane to start as needed for balance. When I went to start walking I was a bit wobbly as expected I walked a little...
i started working with another guy...and he really made me feel like i was a SOMEONE. he didn't flirt with me, but he talked to me. he never laid a hand on me, he never pressured me.
we became close...but i started to push him away. i'd lash out at him because my boyfriend was still abusing me. i put myself down with, "why would he want someone like me?"
after i was strong enough to leave my boyfriend...i tried to forget everything. it lasted about a year...until i decided to call up the guy that had made me feel like a someone instead of a no one.
i apologized to him over and over again, telling him that i didn't expect him to continue to talk to me, but that i really needed to apologize.
he told me how he felt about me...and that he thought of me almost every day...wondering why i had pushed him away and been snappy with him...
that man is now my fiance...we've been together for over two years now...
i'm glad you found someone that you can be happy with. stay strong and keep your head up. =)
If more of us men/woman would open up to ppl we want to know and tell them what happen to us instead of being nasty or something to them. They too may find happiness in their lives.