Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
Ppl can be sexually abused and raped by their mates. I did with my first husband. And when i told ppl they said he was my husband and since he was the man i had to obey what he said and done...
He was very abusive to me and why i stayed with him for 17yrs is beyond me knowning. He was very jelous of me and accused me and followed me around all the time...
One day after working a double shift i came home tired laid across the bed and went to sleep with clothes on. He came in after work told me to undress he was going to have sex with me. I told him i was to tired he tore my clothes off me i was to tired to fight...
On and off in less then five minutes. About an hour later he wanted more i said NO he threw me on the bed tore my pjs off and told me i be sorry if i said no again.. I tried to get away he would not let me. Then he took his cigerete and burnt my nipples with it then i gave in...
When he was done with his five minute ordeal he put his cigerette out inside of my vagina i screamed with pain till i passed out...
For years i could not even think of having sex with a man, i didn't want to look at men, i hated them all and when a man say something to me i had a nasty remark to say back to them...
THis went on for years with my atittude towards men. I finally said their must be something wrong with me and then i went to see a therphist. I found out i was blaming all men for what my ex did to me(hubby at the time) and when i was raped by my brother when i was a child...
I learned through her not to be that way with all men as all men are not like that. Now i think their is some kind of law that a husband can be tried in rape of his wife seems to me someone told me that. I think they should be as they can rape as well as a stranger can...
I did meet a good man but i still treated him bad for awhile till one day he asked what he has ever done to me. I then broke down and cried and told him the whole story...
Well that man loved me so much just cause of whom i am, he is patient , kind and caring and he is my hubby now. I have learned alot from this good man and so thankful i went for help long ago that has brought much happiness into my life my hubby...
When we are sexual abused as a child it carries into our adult hoods and i know for me anyways sex was not an important issure to me growning up and when i got to be adult the sexual drive just is not their like it should be even now...
He was very abusive to me and why i stayed with him for 17yrs is beyond me knowning. He was very jelous of me and accused me and followed me around all the time...
One day after working a double shift i came home tired laid across the bed and went to sleep with clothes on. He came in after work told me to undress he was going to have sex with me. I told him i was to tired he tore my clothes off me i was to tired to fight...
On and off in less then five minutes. About an hour later he wanted more i said NO he threw me on the bed tore my pjs off and told me i be sorry if i said no again.. I tried to get away he would not let me. Then he took his cigerete and burnt my nipples with it then i gave in...
When he was done with his five minute ordeal he put his cigerette out inside of my vagina i screamed with pain till i passed out...
For years i could not even think of having sex with a man, i didn't want to look at men, i hated them all and when a man say something to me i had a nasty remark to say back to them...
THis went on for years with my atittude towards men. I finally said their must be something wrong with me and then i went to see a therphist. I found out i was blaming all men for what my ex did to me(hubby at the time) and when i was raped by my brother when i was a child...
I learned through her not to be that way with all men as all men are not like that. Now i think their is some kind of law that a husband can be tried in rape of his wife seems to me someone told me that. I think they should be as they can rape as well as a stranger can...
I did meet a good man but i still treated him bad for awhile till one day he asked what he has ever done to me. I then broke down and cried and told him the whole story...
Well that man loved me so much just cause of whom i am, he is patient , kind and caring and he is my hubby now. I have learned alot from this good man and so thankful i went for help long ago that has brought much happiness into my life my hubby...
When we are sexual abused as a child it carries into our adult hoods and i know for me anyways sex was not an important issure to me growning up and when i got to be adult the sexual drive just is not their like it should be even now...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
i started working with another guy...and he really made me feel like i was a SOMEONE. he didn't flirt with me, but he talked to me. he never laid a hand on me, he never pressured me.
we became close...but i started to push him away. i'd lash out at him because my boyfriend was still abusing me. i put myself down with, "why would he want someone like me?"
after i was strong enough to leave my boyfriend...i tried to forget everything. it lasted about a year...until i decided to call up the guy that had made me feel like a someone instead of a no one.
i apologized to him over and over again, telling him that i didn't expect him to continue to talk to me, but that i really needed to apologize.
he told me how he felt about me...and that he thought of me almost every day...wondering why i had pushed him away and been snappy with him...
that man is now my fiance...we've been together for over two years now...
i'm glad you found someone that you can be happy with. stay strong and keep your head up. =)
If more of us men/woman would open up to ppl we want to know and tell them what happen to us instead of being nasty or something to them. They too may find happiness in their lives.