Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I know this may not be in the right forum, but I know a lot of you and feel comfortable here. I feel like I am at my whits end. I love my husband and I love him with all my heart. He is never demanding or cold when it comes to sex. But when we do have sex i have to do all the work because if he gets on top or into positions that make things tight for him, he comes really fast. We might get into it for almost a minute before he has to stop so he doesn't come. We usually do that for about five minutes before I just get totally bored out of my mind and just tell him to finish.
He does offer to sometimes go down on me, but I want to have sex. I want to have sex that doesn't last two minutes. i want sex where we can try different positions. i know it isnt all his fault. He tries so hard, but nothing seems to work. There have been times when he will just finish masturbating in the shower, but when it comes to intercourse, he still goes off like a shotgun. The StaHard cream doesn't seem to help at all either. What do i do? Tonight, i just told him that i wasn't going to have sex with him again until i was sure I was actually going to enjoy it. What fun is sex if you get all worked up just to be let down right in the middle? PLEASE HELP!!!!
He does offer to sometimes go down on me, but I want to have sex. I want to have sex that doesn't last two minutes. i want sex where we can try different positions. i know it isnt all his fault. He tries so hard, but nothing seems to work. There have been times when he will just finish masturbating in the shower, but when it comes to intercourse, he still goes off like a shotgun. The StaHard cream doesn't seem to help at all either. What do i do? Tonight, i just told him that i wasn't going to have sex with him again until i was sure I was actually going to enjoy it. What fun is sex if you get all worked up just to be let down right in the middle? PLEASE HELP!!!!
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
If his levels are elevated then you can drop the supplements, or take some to calm him down. Just let me know.
Sex gets boreing at times...has he talked to a Dr. about his stamina ?? ALOT of men have this same issue...I have only had one lover that it was like that with...and our DR just said to have him Climax...wait 20 minutes or so then arouse him again...and it worked perfect...almost TO good..alot of times going so long I just got sore...and there is ALOT more to SEX then just the Intercourse part...is he fully arouseing you to begin with ? when my Husband and I first started haveing sex, I was very up front about the things that really arouse me...and what really turns me OFF..it was a gradual thing...but now we are very well aware of each others needs...and we work towards that...with a quickie thrown in every so often for good measure...lol.
we explore our sexuality...try alot of different things that PEAK out interests so to speak...
so just relax...no idea of how old you are...or how long you have been married...but GREAT sex takes time and the desire to fully know your lover
Msboni - Yes, i did say that to him. i know it wasn't the right thing to say, but I am so frusterated. We have been married for three and a half years and sex has always been like this. The only time that it isn't is when he is drunk and I don't like to have sex with him when he is drunk. i want him to be all there and with it. I am just so frustrated with how long this has been going on and i know that if i don't try to rectify it now, it will be 7 or 8 years in and it will still be a problem. Oh, and I am 27. he just turned 30.
Thanks to both of you for your quick responses.
Does he have the ability to go more than once? if so get the first one out the way. if that does not work you can look into things like a penis ring. this prevent ejaculation.;
also my hubby tells me the penis ring does not hurt and helps him to perform at a greater explosion then he has ever had in his life time so try that.
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http://www.growtall.com/jab-grow/premature-ejaculation.htm
http://www.nine3.com/DeerMan.html