I think alot of us struggle with this, you are not alone. But here is something you might consider. Faith. We are taught and or just belive that Faith is something we know, even though we can not see it or touch it, like the existance of God for example. You need to have the same Faith in yourself that you are a Good Person Of Heart, like I know you to be. It is that belief in yourself that will carry you through the rough times with your head held high. I am not one to push religion, I believe in God, he has helped me through mant a dark hour, and to come to peace with my life, but more than that he has taught me to have Faith in who I am, and that is a person of Good Heart, just like you. So even though I have a bad day or two, I sit here proud of who I am head held high, knowing this bad day will pass, and I am loved as I love others.

i also struggle with this but im getting better i did a group therpy on sexual assult and it help a little to see it was them n not me. If u ever need to talk im here add me

I don't have the answere. My parents brought mine down as much as possible. Dhr told me that my sister needs more than anyone they have seen in their life. I told them we were never given any.

all i know is that i need to be alone, i thought i was getting better, and entered into a relationship.....this was a wrong move. all the issues j had controlled came flooding back. time to heal.....space to breath....room to grow.

I can identify... something that I have drawn strength from is a work or school accomplishment.

I think that building self-esteem is a long difficult process. It is important to acknowledge your success whereever it occurs. Then maybe, when you're feeling down and low, you can try to remember what you did well.

For me, it literally is a slow going process; difficult to hush those negative voices I grew up with. Something I hate admitting is that it takes a lot of mental energy to re-direct the negative self talk.

Act as if. Maybe in time, (for those like me, a LOT of time), you will possess what you aspire to.

Doing things that make me feel valuable like helping people, building things and generally making a habit of being good to myself.

Things that get you involved and add value to you as a person.

hope this helps.

Well for one thing, you are beautiful in your posted picture. I too have struggled with self-esteem. It's been a long road to become stronger but I have come a long way. I started by learning to make decisions for myself which has always been difficult for me. I too pray often and lean on my faith. I took a job to where I had to travel and become independent and this helped me so much. Therapy is a good place to start. I hope things go well for you!

Thank you all for your replies. I found them very helpful. My faith in God does help a little. I just haven't learned how to change my thinking. Maybe my therapist can help me with that. I just want to get better so badly that I want to do the work constantly, however I guess it just takes TIME....Things I must Earn.

You have the drive and the right attitude! With that you'll get there!