Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
i dont know if i was raped or not, because the way it happened was my fault..i met this guy on the internet, and i know how stupid it was/ is, but i agreed to meet him....we went to his apartment,and just talked and watched tv. after a while we started making out & messing around...he started taking off my clothes and his....then he got out a condom and put it on...we kept kissing, but i told him that i didnt want to go all the way, he asked me if i was a virgin, and i told him i was..he got on top of me, and started rubbing his penis on my vulva. i told him to stop, and i tried to turn onto my side, he just kept telling me to relax, and he said he wasnt going to put it in all the way. i kept saying that i didnt want to have sex, but he pushed into me. i couldnt tell if he was all the way inside, but it hurt really badly, i tried to get out from under him, but he pushed his body harder on me. he started to climax and he was pushing really hard, but he still said he wasnt inside of me.....when he was done he laid down and wanted to watch tv. i told him to take me home, and he did. in the car he apologized and said "sorry if i made you feel uncomfortable"
i dont know what to do, because im the one who agreed to meet a stranger on the interenet, and i feel like i led him on my kissing him....i just feel like i was asking for it, but i know that it wasnt right....i just dont know what to think or what to do,id really appreciate someone elses input about this
i dont know what to do, because im the one who agreed to meet a stranger on the interenet, and i feel like i led him on my kissing him....i just feel like i was asking for it, but i know that it wasnt right....i just dont know what to think or what to do,id really appreciate someone elses input about this
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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Has anyone tried these supplements? Do they give MGers more quality of life by improving memory and overall well being?Thanks!Barbel
Yes you may have done something stupid going to his appartment but that does not mean that he can do anything that you did not consent to.
As Lasthope101 said NO IS NO ANYTIME.
This person you were with is a PERPETRATOR. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
NO MEANs NO, when you are with respectful people.
From your story, it sounds like he may have been turned on even more bcs of him being with a virgn.
You may want to consider calling the police and getting an exam and reporting this guy.
He may be doing the same thing tonight, with some other unsuspecting person.
NO MEANS NO, when you are with respectful people.
sure it was wrong to go to his place...but rape happens in many situations...and we are not STUPID because someone else is a freakin Creep...Rape happens between long time friends..people who are dateing....couples that are married...as well as perfect strangers...Rape occurs when someone takes from you something that you do not want to Give...
Do Not make the mistake of takeing responability for HIS actions...just learn from it...
I kiss someone I like by no way does that mean I want sex. It is healthy to express something like kissing and not want to have other things like touching or intercourse.
Often the public is callous to victims saying you made a poor choice so its not rape. WRONG I made plenty of poor choices my life did not mean I wanted to be raped.
I hate the term leading on! That is such, a selfish guilt trip used to bend anothers will. What if I liked a girl and we were going to go out to dinner then walk in the park then have some intimate time during the end. What if during dinner I did not feel the chemistry and did not want to take the dinner any further cause it was not what I wanted. I should have the right to change my mind at any time. There is no such thing as a point of no return.
I am sorry for another thing as well. Women who are virgins often feel a discomfort when they first engage in sex. It hurts plain and simple. That is a time for a loving mate. You were robbed of someone caring over you through this and loving on you really. Instead you were raped and then left in your own pain to be on your own. A real man is not like this. This behavior is unacceptable! I am sorry for your abuse.
If this happend to your friend what would you tell her? I would ask her where he lives so i could report him! This was rape. Please talk to someone, and NEVER feel stupid. You spoke up clearly, and more.
You were raped.
Though I have never been able to do it, I hope that you can find the courage to report him.
Don't go through life blaming yourself on this one. It is not your fault.