Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Properly dealing with it?

deleted_user
deleted_user
Sometimes I think that it would be easier if there was a step by step guide on how to deal with sexual abuse. Im on 12 years this year since it happened. I dont cry as much about it and I still think about it everyday without getting upset and that makes me think that im ok now. If I really dig deep it still hurts so much, its unbearable.

How do you know when you have properly dealt with it?
deleted_user
deleted_user
My abuse ended in 1999 and some days it feels like it was only yesterday,other times although it doesn't go away it almost feels as though it was in another life time.
I hope things get easier for you
jeanne36roses
jeanne36roses
honestly i do not think you can ever really get over it.there is not an overnight cure. i was 9 and now i'm 36 it's been 27 years. and sometimes it feels just like yesterday and it hurts just like it too. maybe you are coming out of it. i surely hope so for your own sake and your own sanity...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree that you never forget it but I know that you can heal from past abuses. I am a survivor of physical, sexual, emotional and mental abuse. I went through 17 years of hell.

But, I hae gone on to live a wonderful and happy life. It was through EMDR therapy that has allowed me to live a wonderful and happy adulthood.

I still remember the abuse but after my EMDR therapy I know longer have a emtional contact with it. It is almost like it happened to me in another lifetime.

I will continue to tell you all that you can heal you have to face it head on and with the help of a good therapist you can be happy and live a great life!!

Hugs
deleted_user
deleted_user
I too wish there was a fool proof step by step program. Like an AA program for sex abuse survivors. I hate that I live in my abuse. But I just don't know where else to go. The counseling I am undertaking, is just dealing with the here and now, and how it associates to the abuse. How many bad habits I have learned. False truths. So I know I didn't answer you question, and I am not sure that anyone really can.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thankyou for your replies, I do live a normal day to day life which is good and have never let the memories take over, its just hard sometimes.
Thankyou again xx
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