
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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I am new here and joined this group to hopefully find a way to get over something that happened to me when I was just about 4 years old. It never affected me untill I was 17 and broke up with my first boyfriend (I thought it was true love, turned out to be puppy love) and I have not been able to be close to a man ever since, even though I have been in a relatiosnhip for 4 years! I just can not stand men to look at me or think of me in a sexual way and when they do it just makes my hate for men worse. Please I need help to be able to feel comfortable and enjoy sex again, this is ruining my life! How can something that happend so long ago and never bothered you before come back and haunt you?????
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That said, don't worry. You're not abnormal. We've all been where you are, some of us are still there. It was a traumatic, horrible experience, and it's perfectly natural for it to leave behind some scars.
If you broke your leg in a motorcycle accident, do you think you'd be rearing to get up on a motorcycle again?
If you were stabbed, do you think you'd love being around people while they held knives?
This is just like that. It's post traumatic stress disorder, and there are people who can and will help you.
You're very brave for coming here and talking about this. You should be commended for that.
As for your current relationship, if you haven't told him about the abuse, it might be time for a little talk.
There are two good books you should look into, Courage to Heal and Allies in Healing, both by the same author. Courage to Heal is an excellent workbook for abuse victims, and Allies in Healing is a workbook for the partners of abuse victims.
You've already become a survivor just by speaking up and asking for help. Be proud of yourself.