There are times when I don't want anyone to even brush against me and there have been times when I would even reject a loving hug from my father because he was male, but over time it has gotten better. The more I've confronted my issues surrounding my experiences the more comfortable I've become with having people hug me and I can only hope that it will be the same for you, that time and realizations will help.

I have the same problem with people touching me.... but sometimes I am ok with it.... it just depends what mood I am in at the time, or where the person touches me. I know I hurt my mum and family when I tell them not to touch me, but I can't help the way I feel.

I tell my mom not to touch me either. I think i tell her that because i know i can. i won't say it to others because i don't know what their reaction might be. i believe i tell my mom because i feel safe to tell her.

no i do that same thing. and idk why, there are just certain day's where i just don't want anyone to touch me. it just makes me soooo mad and i hate it cuz i feel like i'm being mean and i don't like to be mean abut idk it's weird.

I didn't hug my mom until I was like 13. I never shook anyones hands until I was like 9. I still don't kiss anyone not even on the cheek. I to get treated like I am weird. I don't really have any advise for you but I am the same way. Even now I am hesitant to be touched it is rare when someone touches me.

my ex-boyfriend was like that. he usually just felt that way after a bad flashback. no one could touch him, not even me. the feeling of being touched brought back those bad memories for him. it sometimes took days for those feelings 2 go away. i hated not being able 2 physically consol him but i know it hurt him more that he had a problem with me touching him when he wished he didnt. but i understand that its not his fault.

I hate being touched..by my mother....i detest it...i loathe it....i would rather die than be touched by her

why do you feel that way lostsome?

I feel that way... and my mom will go to hug me and I flinch... I cant help it and I hate when i do that, i know it hurts her. Same with my friends... I dont like hugs... unless I want them. or am able to accept them... I dont know what to do, I just try to justify it in my mind that I am ok and that she wont hurt me, that she would never do those things to me... I hope things get better for you.

I get like that too...alot. I always feel really bad because my dad says my mom gets really upset when I tell her not to touch me, and I get mad at my friends alot because they won't always stop touching me when I say to.

i feel the same way with my parents! and they werent the ones to hurt me.
i get so uncomfortable.

I'M THE SAME WAY. THERE IS ONLY 1 PERSON WHO CAN TOUCH ME OR HUG ME AND THAT IS MY BOYFRIEND. BUT MINE IS MUCH WORSE I CAN'T STAND TO BE ALONE WITH ANY MAN EXCEPT HIM. IF I AM ALONE WITH A MAN I START HAVING TROUBLE BREATHING AND I WILL HAVE TO GO OUTSIDE AND SIT DOWN. IT'S JUST REALLY WEIRD. THERE ARE A LOT OF TIMES WHEN ALL I WANT IS MY BOYFRIEND TO HOLD ME. I KNOW THIS PROBABLY SOUNDS WEIRD. BECAUSE NO ONE ELSE CAN EVEN TOUCH ME.

from my point of view of being a male, when my wife comes up behind me and touches me, she has all the best intentions in the world, but it makes me freeze and clam up, and the the most horrid feeling to think i am rejecting my wife after 16 years, but it still feels like my abusers are touching me,and my mind races back to past events, so it`s like a trigger for me, thats why my life is isolated, so i think trying to get proffesional help might be a good way to go, before it gets to bad.....

It seems we all feel like you do,and carbonbassed is right,try and get some help with this. I think I worked out why I hated my Mum or two of my siblings touching/hugging me. I do blame them (unfairly) for not stopping the abuse. As my Dad wasn't around much when it happened (he worked away a lot) and my younger brothers couldn't have done anything to help me they don't make my skin crawl. It's different from not wanting to be touched by strangers, although I can't stand that either!!!!

I know how you feel. I don't liked to be touched by people that aren't in my close circle of loved ones. Even people I hang out with if my elbow touches theirs,ie at the movies, I can't leave my elbow there. I recoil at people who try to hug me that I'm not cose too. Except when it came to sex. Before I got married lets just say I really enjoyed being single, but I would never kiss them. Just like prostitutes don't kiss their johns I didn't kiss anyone I was sleeping with. When I was in a relatiinship then I would kiss them, otherwise no. But the wierd thing now is I crave physical touch from my husband. For years as an adolescent I would hardly hug or touch anyone, but I was promiscuos. I feel crazy sometimes when i tell people the inner workings of my screwed up head. I have really worked through my abuse and I can talk about it and not have a problem, I realize now it wasn't my fault but it still alawys effects you in ways you may not realize for a while.