i just started telling people this year too, and started counseling this summer. it's REALLY helping. the one thing i'm finding is that people are more accepting of me than i thought they would be. one friend actaully told me that she had suspicions but never said anything in case she was wrong. and i found out that two of my other close friends went through the same thing.

i had one person just sort of blow it off...she struggles with major depression so i guess i can understand that she can't look outside of her own pain but it did kinda hurt when she brushed it aside. that's the only thing i would say to watch out for is if someone is not sympathetic in other areas.

but yeah, being accepted by friends who know and understand is really helpful.

People often won't know what to say; it's uncomfortable hearing hard stuff, and knowing someone you care for has been hurt. I encourage you to share, but caution you that people may unknowingly hurt you with their ignorant responses. If you can let that slide, I think talking will help you.

thank you soo much... both of you that is the reassurance that I needed.... I have noticed that i need help and the first step is to admit that something happened and now i need to set up my couseling.