
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

NiketaAroha
Hi there, this is my first post and I'm in the process of finding out if I was abused. I'm 34 and I have been seeing a counsellor for relationship problems and lowself esteem. I don't have any vivid memories but I have many symptoms and my adopted father is a sexual abuser, and my mother has talked about trying to do everything to protect me from him. My uncle thinks I am the way i am because he thinks my father abused me and it was so truamatic that I blocked it out. I did a memory exercise where i had to go to places in my counsellors office and talk about why I was there etc and I ended up in a place in the room where I felt bad about myself. It ended up that I wasn't bad someone else was there being bad and in the process of feeling a dark figure touching around my stomach I became aroused in my V and I don't normally get aroused there I don't like penetration I'm also a lesbian. I've been trying to find out about this arousal thing but no luck, so i'm asking if anyone has had the same kind of experience? It would be greatly appreciated. thanks heaps.
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Here is something I would hope your counselor might explain to you.
Our minds give us information when we are in a place in life to handle such info.
I don't know if this has happened to anyone reading this but we could be in the middle of something we consider fun and happy and suddenly a memmory from the past appears. This is because our minds thinks "ok, nows a good time"
I hope and pray for you that you find the peace you are searching for.
I would be interested to know what led you to seek counseling for repressed memmories?
My thoughts are with you good luck in this journey
In reply to your questions. I went to counselling because I felt I needed to sort myself out b4 I could feel completely confident in working with people, as I have been doing papers in drug and alcohol studies, I also have a degree in psychology but i feel there is always something stopping me ie lack of confidence low self esteem. Plus I was confused about why i sexualised everything even at a young age and always had relationship problems. After my first session with my counsellor I developed an erotic transference! That really threw me and it was totally subconscious, I talked to her about it so it's part of the counselling. But it does all make sense, I have always wondered since I was at risk. When my mother went away on trips she bought me with her so I wasn't left with dad and she just recently said that even in the weekends she didn't work so that I was never left alone with him.
I may have been abused very young and that is why I have no memories. I suppose I just need to know without causing a major stir what happened and if it happened. Then I know I will be able to process, grieve, grow and move on to the next stage of my life much stronger and more knowledgeable about where my thoughts and feelings come from.