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Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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I thought I was gonna get sick when she actually said his name. She asked me questions about the night it happened and I tensed up, I think I am gonna have bruises on my arms from crossing them over my chest and holding on so tight. I am in the anger stage right now. I try to push that anger down, because if I do that, I am the only one who is miserable, but if I let it out my family and friends will be miserable. I am not a mean person and I don't like the mean thoughts I am having. She said I have to feel the anger, but I don't want to. And I don't think I want to go back to her ever again.
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I did end up finding a wonderful shrink, who I saw for 3 years once up to three times a week. But he listened and he let me go at a pace that was right for me.
the sad part is that I stopped going to him. I was at a point that talking was no longer working for me. The ironic thing in my situation was that his name was the same as my abuser. I never called him by his name.
Just keep looking for someone who is right for you and who will let you go at a pace that emotionally safe for you. I know how you feel.
i dunno if it had anything to do with it, but she was an analyst.
have you tried free association writing? even posting that in my journal a bit helps. or trearing it up afterwards. i know when i don't let out my anger in small doses...i snap
but finding the right dose is so hard =/
what about working out? that seems to help with my anger some too.
my pschotherapist said to deal with this anger you have to confront it - i am still trying to confront it and until he explained it was a fear i didnt realise it was!
but once i realised and thought of it like being scared of heights extra then i began to work out how to tackle the problem
in your case i would suggest that it might be a fear of dealing with the emotion that is coming from you (you are scared and unsure of what you might do or feel) but if you go over things slowly it might help
for instance start by trying to write his name or maybe something related and do it over and over until you feel completely comfortable
this may take a couple of hours but believe me after the initial step of starting and just doing it it gets a hell of alot easier
then move on to something more harder like writing things more in detail or saying his name or getting some one else to say his name over and over until completely comfrtable again and slowly you will feel more at ease when things are mentioned becuse if you want todeal with the situation you are going to have to talk about things which affect you and this might help - i know ot did with me!
i had to watch awful videos over and over which made me cry
hope this helps
I know from experience that if the anger isn't confronted it will eat you up and continue to take from you. So I agree in principle with your counselor. but It is all in the approach. If your not comfortalbe with your counselor because you cannot feel they are any good or she is pushing to hard then maybe you should try and find another one. on the othe hand if you don't want to go because you don't want to face the anger then I think you should take your time in making the decision.
You should be able to talk with her about how you are feeling and I would tell her the things she says that are triggers for you.
Or have you done this already?
I am back to the beach ball.
every try to hold one under water? It takes a lot of energy to hold and it will ware you down and hit you right in the face.
Sorry if this sounds like preaching. two wines. what can I say.
good luck