Sexual Abuse Support Group

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My little sister needs help and I'm clueless.

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Last night I got a call from my little sister Chelsea, I hadn't heard from her in about a year and it was nice to talk to one of the few people I care about. That was until I answered the phone(I saw the call on my caller ID). When picked up the phone she was crying, she wasn't too happy with the foster family she was living with. She told me that they had been abusing her, she said she told her caseworker also but it would a few months to find a new family. She needed help badly and she didn't have anyone else to turn to, so she called me... I've been thinking she could stay with me until they find a family, two of the bedrooms in my apartment are empty and I make plenty of money to support me and her. but other than that my mind is blank... is there anything else I could do?

I just can't let her stay there if what she says is true, and I believe her.
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I wouldn't think that legally the people in charge of the foster program could let her stay in an abusive situation if they have been made aware. Then again, the system doesn't always work like it is supposed to. Could you call her caseworker on her behalf to make sure he/she is aware of the circumstances? Would you have to go to court to get guardianship?
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I hope that she can stay with you. Most important thing right now is for her to be in a safe environment, then work on the rest.
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Halfblind,

Please Please do what you need to do to help her!! I once was that little girl and it is not a good feeling. Wow reading this just brought me back!! Please do what you can for her!!

Her case worker should not have left her there. The laws have changed since I was in foster care and if the caseworker is aware of any abuse she is suppose to take her out immediately, they have homes for crisis like this!! If you can't take her then you need to report this to the police.

No child is suppose to be left in a home where there is abuse suspected!!!

Let us know what happens!! Truly concerned!!

With love!
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I would call the case worker myself. If they know about the abuse they are suppose to remove them immediately. I don't see why she couldn't stay with you . You are 18 and family. I am sure that they will check you out to make sure you can take care of her and all. I don't see why she can't stay with you.
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I'm a guardian ad litem. What you need to do is report the abuse to the hotline. 2nd start calling the caseworker and her supervisor and demand she be moved NOW ! Call you local (GAL) office we are aasigned be the courts to look after kidds in within the court system and foster kidds are in that system. KIdds runaway all the time to escape bad foster homes. BE a voice for your sister.
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Also for you to be granted any type of custody. The states wound require a home study and background check on you. All that took take a month or more.
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I called Chelsea's caseworker yesterday, and she's leaving that shithole today. My sister didn't mention all the details (almost none) to her caseworker, mainly because she doesn't trust her (I don't either). later today I'm going to visit her at the group home she's at. I'm going to become a Foster parent just in case this happens to her again. I had to stay with an abusive foster family, but I didn't have anybody to talk to about it, but I'm really glad she did.

I'm happy I was able to help her out of that home... I met that family once and they seemed like real assholes, I should have done something earlier.

Thanks for the help!
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I don't know what State she is in, but you can petition the Judge to have her sheltered and put in a safe place. Evidentially they did not do a good screening before placing her there. And thank God she is letting someone know what is happening. Hopefully criminal charges can be brought on them. They don't need to have children around them. Praying for you all!
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Halfblind, I am so very proud of you for taking care of Chelsea!! She is lucky to have you to help look out for her. Please make sure you keep in touch with her on a regular basis. She obviously trusts you! I would be a great idea for you to get state certified incase you need to take her in at some point!!

Great Job for helping her get out of that horrible home!!

With love!
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When my stepsons were placed in foster care because of their mothers abuse/neglect, my then fiance had to do everything that a foster parent would do to have his kids placed with him because she had kept them from him for 3 years.

It's a process, so start now. Once you get her in your care maybe you can file for guardianship?
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